Open Relationships

rebuildingMyself · 2013-09-24T05:40:11+00:00

She's getting free emotional support from you as she fucks other guys guilt free.

If you're ok with your "gf" getting fucked by other people that's on you, just make sure you're putting yourself first.

Invalidity · 2013-09-24T06:16:26+00:00

I hope you initiated this proposition because you wanted some variety... otherwise, get the fuck out because the scales are tipped in her favor.

If you want to stick through this, I would scale back greatly on giving her too much emotional support and go out and use the opportunity to score on some other women.

[deleted] · 2013-09-24T09:57:12+00:00

An open relationship is just a euphamism for cuckoldry these days...

Only men should be allowed to sleep around while in a relationship. Allowing your women to do so makes no sense at all, and basically voids any relationship you ever had. If you've got a woman that just wants lots of dicks, treat her like a woman who just wants lots of dicks, and that means not commiting to her. A man's commitment is the only playing card he has in relationship game, if you give that to her freely, then you've given her everything. At the very least you should demand fidelity in return for that. A man's fidelity has little value to a woman though, except in terms of potential resources lost to bastard children.

qualia00 · 2013-09-24T06:53:39+00:00

Handle it like any other plate. Make sure you are getting what YOU want. As Patrice O'Neil said, women will fuck your time, your wallet, your conversations, etc. If you aren't fucking her pussy, then you might as well just be her "friend".

AlistairR · 2013-09-24T08:13:38+00:00

1. Set rules. A good one to start with is discretion. "Look, we are going to be able to hook up with other people, but don't be blatant about it. I don't want to know about it."

2. Tell her that when she is with you, all of her focus is on you. No texting or facebook messaging other dudes while spending time with you.

3. You MUST hook up other chicks and they must be good looking.

4. Break rule #1 by "accidentally" having her see one of your chicks. A picture is fine, doesn't have to be in person. You need to make sure she knows you can get pussy.

assinmygenes · 2013-09-24T11:41:47+00:00

Speaking from experience don't do it, the simple truth is she can always pick up easier than men. And even if you make rules she will bend or break them as she deems necessary.

TheKount · 2013-09-24T07:32:26+00:00

Be prepared for her to get more action than you.

I have 2 semi serious relationships and a few other casual ones. The two semi serious girls know about everything. They have had a threesome together with me actually.

But I set my frame from the beginning. I don't have any experience going from monogamous to open. Feel free to ask me any questions because I'm not sure what you specifically want to know.

GushyWetWet15 · 2013-09-24T10:52:04+00:00

this will not end well. she's going to be bringing back a fuck buddy every night whereas you will be lucky to get laid even once a week. yeah it sounds neat that you get to fuck whoever you want, problem is it is much easier for her to fuck someone than it is you and no you definitely will not be fucking a plethora of women like she will a plethora of men. this is probably the biggest mistake men make when going into an open relationship, thinking they will get to fuck as much as the girl where in reality your going to end up fapping using your tears as lube while she's getting rammed in the room next door, after a little while you'll end up being jealous and even resenting her especially since you've been with her for 4 years.

frequentlywrong · 2013-09-24T16:08:48+00:00

This is why swinging clubs exist. So both partners can be sexually adventurous, but still under the eye of the other partner.

LostProsody · 2013-09-24T16:17:23+00:00

If she initiated (it doesn't sound like you did), she likely has a guy sniffing around that she's interested in or she's already fucking him and feels guilty. If the sex is as great as you think, let her fuck the guy, and hopefully whatever she got a whiff of wasn't a better brand than what you stock the shelves with. This could backfire if he is a true alpha.

I tend to agree with the comments about her getting more out of this type of relationship than you because she gets financial support, emotional support, and a lot more sex than you can get (I assume).

To that end you must also reduce her emotional support and go dutch whenever possible. Be subtle and let her mind figure it out.

Make sure she knows that its not as if the (can we fuck other people) line changing from false to true is the only change in your relationship code.

Try decreasing or eliminating your I love you's from phone calls and before you leave for work. Also eliminate pointless kissing and touching outside of physical interaction. Don't be a dick, but stop paying attention to most of her meandering word vomit. Do pay attention and reinforce valuable conversations. Don't compliment her when she wants it or needs it. Compliment on your schedule and when you do make sure these are sometimes followed by insults (you look great, for a 28 year old).

This could be her attempt to break up with you outside of moving out and having to support herself until she finds another provider. If you suspect this, there is no point in trying to mind fuck her back into submission. Just watch it all unfold and pat her on the head when it happens.

Finally, you aren't married, so you just dodged a big bullet. I don't advise marriage even being an option on the table for discussion.

Good luck.

Open Relationships

Comments

1. Set rules. A good one to start with is discretion. "Look, we are going to be able to hook up with other people, but don't be blatant about it. I don't want to know about it."

2. Tell her that when she is with you, all of her focus is on you. No texting or facebook messaging other dudes while spending time with you.

3. You MUST hook up other chicks and they must be good looking.

4. Break rule #1 by "accidentally" having her see one of your chicks. A picture is fine, doesn't have to be in person. You need to make sure she knows you can get pussy.

2 is super important.

Title	Open Relationships
Author	amaryllis9
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Comments	16
Date	September 24, 2013 4:45 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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