Plate Spinning Halts Self Development?

manwhy · 2014-06-05T18:28:13+00:00

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trplurker · 2014-06-05T18:28:02+00:00

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wall-of-meth · 2014-06-05T20:26:57+00:00

If you need more tome for yourself, make that time.

Reduce the number of plates, keep only the best. Alternatively, see them less often if you want to keep that number of plates.

Women, or rather people in general, should never hinder your self improvement.

Drogoe · 2014-06-06T02:03:03+00:00

Yeah, it's a huge investment of time-- but personally I find LTRs more time consuming, partly because you have to maintain it consistently. When spinning plates you can let plates fall off as needed or keep things on the backburner until it suits you and dedicate more undistracted focused chunks of time on your work/development; you're under no obligation to be anywhere or meet anyone unless it suits you, but your girlfriend is going to want to do things, watch movies together, come see you after work, blab constantly, etc etc.

riverraider69 · 2014-06-06T17:04:04+00:00

At this particular time in my life, probably the best thing I could do to improve my relationship-side of life is to start practicing the theory and go pick up women. I know it, and I also know that postponing it is a dangerous thing.

But I still don't have time for it - my life right now is simply too full. Work is going great on too many fronts to take it easy. And I have a combination of FWB/lover and paid sex which solves the problem in a very MGTOW style.

So yeah, sometimes you can't do both and have to choose. But be very careful that you don't make the choice you do out of comfort.

SupALupRT · 2014-06-07T05:27:06+00:00

You could make the point that spending more 1:1 time with women will obviously make you better with women, which is a form of self improvement itself.

dallz_beep · 2014-06-07T18:58:09+00:00

This is an extremely important question. Life is bigger than an internet forum... even if it's Reddit. What do you actually do?

In my opinion, if you have the potential to be a great doctor/lawyer/scientist/businessman/musician/professional/whatever, then do it. You are much better off investing your time into yourself. As a young man you should definitely make some approaches and pull some chicks. Nothing grows your balls and improves your game faster than cold approach pick up. It's NOT OPTIONAL. It forces you be faster, smarter, cooler, better. The grind is worth it. You will develop good posture and eye contact, wear cool clothes, not give a fuck what anyone thinks of you, etc.

But once you approach a few hundred chicks over a few years, day game, night game, text game, etc, you can slow it down a notch. Your successes and (mostly) failures will be an invaluable lesson, but there's more to life than sluts. Especially by your mid-20's, it's time to put the pedal to the metal and get serious about your station in life.

You can still approach chicks any day of the week. Here and there. Go hang out at a bar a couple nights a month, fine. But unless you're 100% invested in the player lifestyle, it's time to improve on yourself. IMO, picking up chicks full time is not for everyone.

You'll attract an occasional groupie, which you can hopefully make into a fuck buddy. But other than that, your life should NOT be about partying and gaming chicks, unless that's simply what you want to do with your life. I respect PUA guys who pursue what they want but if your name isn't Owen from Real Social Dynamics then you have no reason why you need to be going to clubs 6 nights a week.

Porn is free. Prostitutes aren't that expensive, compared to a wife. Think about that wedding, that divorce, etc that you've avoided, and go bang all the 8's 9's and 10's you want. Once you're out of college and employed and making decent money, it's perfectly fine to bang a hooker every now and then. Lots of awesome people do it. Even famous celebrities. It's just so efficient with your time.

Again, you NEED to develop game. There's no escaping the grind. If you do, you will pay the price. But once you have a solid foundation, it's time to develop your corporate white collar career game. Otherwise, you'll be the formerly cool beach bum who partied hard and scored lots of chicks but now you're 45 and living in the same studio apartment with a beater car. A little bit of money, really can buy you some happiness.

Not everyone travels the world as a swaggering vagabond. People like Roosh et al don't get this. They complain that paying for pussy makes you a weak loser. Unless you travel and fuck European chicks for a living, don't listen. Some people also think nofap is the only way to go. Unless you have erectile dysfunction at 23, and never kissed a girl in your life let alone approached one, don't listen. Practice game first, but then switch focus to improving yourself, and you will be greatly rewarded. And when you're rewarded, you will be able to handle it due to your earlier gaming grind. Oh yeah, and you might even end up fucking tons of women anyway, without a lifestyle of cold approaching all day long, simply from having achieved such high status in life.

So, my opinion is to learn game first. Then go to "monk mode" and focus on building long term success. Once you are riding the waves of your success, you can decide what you want to do next.

leodoestheopposite · 2014-06-15T03:29:04+00:00

Ideally I like to have 3-tier system:

~~Girlfriend~~ Main Plate with whom I spend most weekends, when I don't have other weekends commitments. I might also do 1 additional activity with her during the week, but not every week. This is the most pleasant Tier.
~~FWB~~ Second Tier Plate(s) lots of sex and not much social interaction. Often former Main Plates. This is the most time efficient Tier.
Emerging Plate(s) girls that I have recently met and that have not proven themselves suitable for any of the other 2-Tier. This is the most exciting Tier.

Title	Plate Spinning Halts Self Development?
Author	NoReallyItsTrue
Upvotes	3
Comments	12
Date	June 5, 2014 6:01 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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