Premature Ejaculation question

OGlancellannister · 2017-05-19T00:07:27+00:00

I'd say kill the porn for other reasons than this. It really is akin to chemical castration. And if you think about it... you're sitting there watching other people have sex. Surely there is a better use for your time.

If you do masturbate, train yourself to edge. You will get used to hovering near the point of ejaculation in a high level of arousal. The other thing is to be mindful. I know a guy who says he does math during sex with women, and only thinks of that, and that helps him last longer. I mean maybe that can work, but that sounds pretty unenjoyable to me haha. I've found the only times I've ever had lasting issues is if I was nervous, and thinking about reputation and things like that. When I'm mindful, enjoying the moment, every sensation, the scent of her, the feel of her skin — the entire experience is far better, and I've found actually focusing on these sensations helps me to control them. Either way, I don't have PE; used to have the opposite issue which was surprisingly frustrating as well. Have another friend who swears by taking painkillers before sex to last longer. I've never tried this, seems once again as silly as doing math. Make of this info what you will.

Reeeeeacher · 2017-05-19T02:19:46+00:00

What helped for me was a change of mindset. Instead of telling myself "omg I'm getting laid!" I tell myself "i'm gonna fuck this girl silly." Being anxious about it is a downward spiral

Ciscogeek · 2017-05-19T12:31:15+00:00

I watched an interesting chat with a former porn star about how he powers on, and have used his technique since then quite reliably. - much better than thinking of distractions.

The key to stopping lies in the breath.

Long, slow, deep, full breaths keep the orgasm at bay. If you start increasing the rate of respiration, you get closer to orgasm. But you must remain conscious of the breath, if you forget about it, you're liable to fail.

It sounds odd, but it works. It's quite cool to be so close to the edge, where it feels like it's past the point of no return, but doesn't fall off the edge, because you're not letting it.

DadOnDabs · 2017-05-19T18:00:38+00:00

This is a better question for AskTRP but I'll still help you anyway cause I've been there.

1) only masturbate once a week with no porn. Porn forces you to cum quick. It's just made that way and that's the whole reason you watch porn. You have sex to feel power so you aren't worried about cuming. I can last 2 hours in bed if I play it right but only about 5-10 watching porn.

2) focus on your pleasure not coming

3) have a lot of sex. You will stop caring about cuming quick and will last longer. It's all in your head.

4) read sex god method to get better at sex.

SlippinJimmii · 2017-05-19T13:53:55+00:00

breathing, breath slow and watch, you'll know when its getting close and can slow down or change something up. Also relax you PC muscles as tensing will cause problems. like someone else said, enjoy the moment and all the little things(play with her tits, grab her hair get creative) soon enough you'll have it.

TheRealYekke · 2017-05-19T00:48:10+00:00

There are ointments for that. Some are best used with condoms. Most of the time it was performance anxiety caused by the ex rationing sex. Have your next plate give you BJs more often and you'll work up a higher tolerance

askmrcia · 2017-05-19T20:35:59+00:00

There are a lot of reasons for this. I experienced for two reason. One, was because I was nervous.

Once I got over my nervousness I was good to go.

Now I expereinced it here and there and it was mostly because I was trying to have sex when I wasn't in the mood or I just was not attracted to the girl.

I'll give you a perfect example. Three weeks ago I had a girl over my place for a ONS. It took a while for me to get hard and when I did, I was done in like 2mins.

Had another girl over the very next day and she was much more attractive, better at sex (not just laying there) and I lasted long enough.

Def cut out the porn some.

aanarchist · 2017-05-19T03:39:40+00:00

premature ejaculation is all in your head, and frankly it's a beta frame that puts the woman's in the drivers seat and letting her determine when you're allowed to orgasm and when you are not. if you wanna train yourself to last longer that's fine, but it has to be for you and not because you want the woman to consider you worthy.

if you do wanna last longer it's as simple as developing more discipline. arousal is an emotion just like any other, and you can make the choice to either follow through or to coast on it. the porn trains your mind to focus on the orgasm rather than the entire experience so that naturally happens.

lusdee · 2017-05-19T08:56:25+00:00

Masturbation is suppose to be quick.. no need to drag it out. You can do exercises and edging and all that but it's not necessary if you address the performance anxiety and start doing it with a woman like a man again. Spending more time on foreplay and not rushing to pump her at 100 mph out of the bat will lead to more time in the bedroom. You can create suspense by slowing down and teasing ect.. change positions and reset pace if you feel super close too soon.

LosBuratnos · 2017-05-20T10:26:11+00:00

There is another side of the problem with the porn, though.

My friend told me that due to masturbating too often he couldn't feel much on his dick unless it was rubbed directly under the head. This allowed him to have sex for 2-3 hours without ejaculating, not ejaculating at all.

BudRock56 · 2017-05-19T03:08:28+00:00

Premature load blasting is a medical problem. See your doctor. Otherwise, cut back on the porn, dude.

This "anxiety" that is troubling you is a poison of a weak-willed Beta male. Real men -Alpha males - do not give a shit. They do their thing and move on. If nothing else, get the Bitch off a couple times with your mouth and fingers before you start pumping her. She won't care if you are fast then, and you won't either. And if she does, who cares?

Throwawaysteve123456 · 2017-05-19T03:46:48+00:00

Actually, I'm going to disagree with some of the others. If you're premature ejaculating during SEX, then you need to watch MORE porn so you're less sensitized the real thing. If you're lasting forever, then watch less porn. This sounds entirely psychological, and you clearly have a lot of anxiety about it. First, don't contract your PC muscles. Second, learn how to control your erection; find a mental image that immediately turns you off of sex (imagine someone giving you a paper cut on your dick; gets me everytime). Third, you may have physical sensation issues, so then the key is to learn to build stamina through controlled jerking off. That will take time, but it will work. Then there's more extreme measures like doing things to specifically desensitize your dick, etc.

Title	Premature Ejaculation question
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Date	May 18, 2017 11:56 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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