I wrote a couple of days ago about a woman using me to pay for her cruise. Got some great advice. The best was that she's playing a mild dread game on me to keep me in line. It worked for a while. Not any more.

The facts again. She's 56, I'm 65. She still looks pretty good and hides her slight plumpness well. Still she's 56 all the same. I'm 65 as I said, working at $150k per year computer job, fit, athletic, daily workouts for the past 23 years. Can dance really good.

So with all these attributes, why was I wasting my time and money on her? Even worse I let her become exclusive with me. That's after having read Rollo. And just about everything else I could put my hands on, including the sidebar. I'm still internalizing the material. That takes time.

It took me a long time to figure out. Let my experience be a warning to men who think they can outsmart a woman. You can't. I thought I could beat her at her own game, run mild dread on her to keep her in line, keep her pussy open. Let me repeat, unless you are really sophisticated and know what you are doing, you can't beat a woman at her own game. Her game in this case is to extract maximum resources from her next willing target. Move on. Don't waste your time and money. As soon as she ups the stakes, as in pay for this and that, run away as fast as you can. Keep the cash in your pocket.

Think of it like buying a used car. The dealer does deals all the time, and you maybe do a deal once in 5 or 10 years. Asymmetrical information situation. You lose every time. The only question is how much do you want to lose by.

A good looking woman has men constantly shopping her. She knows what strings to pull, what buttons to press. Totally arm yourself with everything on the sidebar, I did, but realize you are coming from a weak position. She's the buyer, not you, and she knows how to maximize her return from her purchaser (you).

Look for the warning flags, as in her purse stays shut tight whenever you go out, she gets you to charge things on your credit card, she gets you to make travel arrangements, she talks about other generous men in her past life. And this is all very subtle, happens over time. Before you know it she's got you transformed into her provider and you thought you could avoid that trap.

Next time I will lay things out up front. That probably won't stop her from trying. So I will next her on the first sign that she's got me in her sights as her provider.