Don't get them confused.

I still do from time to time. I'll take the ego-satisfaction of a reaction as satsifaction enough, but then forget that the only real satisfaction comes from hard, empirical results.

What are reactions?

  • A girl smiling at you

  • A girl flirting with you, touching you

  • A girl complimenting you

  • A girl having a conversation with you

  • A girl giving you her number (this one is a bit dubious but I still consider it reactions, not results)

What are results?

  • A girl kissing you/letting you kiss her

  • A girl following you around a venue when you lead

  • A girl ditching friends/schedules for you

  • Going on a date with you

  • Going home with you

  • Doing anything sexual with you

The proof is in the pussy.

Did you get it? Or nah?

This can get confusing sometimes when guys get all up their own asses about holding their frame. A bitch acts up and homeboy puts her in her place and either he ditches her or she storms off.

"But he held frame! It's a victory"

Yes, but did he get pussy?

Some will argue that matters, some won't. I'm on the fence. The best revenge for cuntiness is a hate-fuck then never seeing her again, but some might argue that's validating her cuntiness. If you get the pussy at no cost, though, is it really an L?

Again, depends on your viewpoint, but I could see the pro-results argument for this being that holding your frame might lose you this girl, but the long-term benefit is that you have two or more successful pulls after that because you reinforced your internal frame in the face of whatever conflict you previously encountered.

Be careful, however, not to let this keep you in some perpetual cycle of, "Well, if she doesn't like me, then fuck her!" and then you go home and jerk off to your self-righteousness.

If getting pussy to you is a high-priority in your life, and it admittedly is to me, then in most cases with women, her giving you the pussy is a sign that you were a boss. You not getting the pussy is a sign that you messed up.

This also applies to the converse with reactions. Don't get obsessed with positive reactions from women, either. Unless she's fucking you, it don't mean shit how sweet her words are. There are rare cases where logistics/boyfriends intervene and if you know your shit, you can make a genuine assessment that she would fuck you if these obstacles were removed, but even then...don't mean shit.

At the same time, satisfaction and respect for yourself do matter. Don't sacrifice your self-respect for pussy, either.

tl;dr - Results matter. Reactions don't.

Original inspiration for this post.