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[–]1KyfhoMyoba 15 points16 points17 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you wanted to fuck with her, give her back a quarter or a third of the flirtation she gives you and let her escalate. IOW, she thinks that she's playing you, but you're playing her. Read 'Influence' by Robert Cialdini, the most important book on persuasion you'll ever read. Once she has behaved a certain way, her beliefs will become consistent with what she has done.
[–]eccentricrealist 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That also works if you want to fuck her besides fucking with her.
[–]isthatyourdaughter7 points 12 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm not the most attractive dude. I'm overweight , and even if i lost weight I would would be just above average (6/10).
Get to your proper bodyweight, take care of your skin, get a bit of a tan and a stylish haircut. Your opinion on what rating you are is virtually irrelevant; most guys think they're uglier than they actually are.
[–]swordblade 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I couldn't agree more. Personally I enjoy caring for myself and improving myself especially physically and mentally. Plus looking good or at least feeling good can affect the vibe you let off a lot.
Half the battle for me is feelings because who cares how they make you feel if you're already on top of the world in your own mind.
[–]selfsufficientnigga5 points 12 years ago* [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
How about you make a better title?
[–]isthatyourdaughter4 points 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Really!
[–]Endorsed ContributorDenswend 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
One of the fundamental qualities of a man is self sufficiency. You're self sufficient, but in order to keep it, you must be willing to correct your behaviour in some instances. There comes the ability to judge whether or not an advice is good for oneself, and whether or not to listen to it.
To discriminate between good and bad is good, regardless of your definitions of good and bad.
When one gives you advice that you know to be bad, and when one does so in a manner which would suppose that their advice is a matter of fact, then be wary of those who gave you this advice - they might either use you (endangering the concept of self sufficiency) or from ressentiment lower you to their level. Both are bad.
[–]monsieurhire2 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"I'm not a "real" man for turning her down."
Dude, trust me, only a "real" man is capable of turning down a woman's advances. Otherwise, what does that make you? Someone who agrees to every woman's advances, including the fat, ugly trolls. But of course your "friends," being "real" men wouldn't turn THEM down, lol.
You did the right thing.
Alternately, you could have been like, "Okay, you and me, the broom closet, let's go, right now." And then when she hesitates, "Oh, I thought you were REAL woman, lololol, guess you're just a scared little girl." Of course, this way carries more risk.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
its funny cause since they never turn any pussy down tey are going to be fucking with fat chicks and nasty bitches lol.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All is water under the bridge my man. They see you as socially less valuable, and as a result you make an easy target for them to degrade. You are useful to them in that they can validate themselves as superior in their eyes as well as the peer group.
People always say that you should forgive and move on. I would submit that you do not. Internalize these feelings and never forget how expendable people viewed you. And then, after you have increased your value, remember that the people with which you associate view you as valuable, and they would resort back to denigrating behavior or just outright indifference if that value were lost. People are almost always interested in themselves, and it is time you did the same.
[–]DarkSayed 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Every time she hit on me i told her to leave me the fuck alone.
Good. Maintain your dignity. She expects you to grovel because she thinks you're a loser who would not believe his luck a girl hit on him.
If you have nothing else, you have your dignity.
thats his biggest strength
[–]newbie3hunna -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Honestly this thread makes no fucking sense. So she was hitting on you as a group joke? Wtf does that even mean? You need to clarify what is going on.
If these people are saying you aren't a real man couldn't you just tell them she is trolling you? Or just say you don't have an interest in her?
Also how are you being asked to bend over backwards? Are these other people also in on this joke.
You need to work on crafting a coherent thread if you want real advice.
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