--How RP ideals and philosophies helped me out this weekend. NOTE: this will be a long winded read for any single "nice guy" fathers out there; I have come a long way thanks to TRP and id like to share some of what I figured out if it helps another man out.

It is my now 4 year old son's birthday. The ex-wife and I agreed last year to make it a point to bring our families together one day a year for his birthday, reguardless of any shit between us. Well, wouldn't you know it...she changed her mind! (Thanks RP for preparing me for that). We agreed to the same thing last year, but she also changed her mind. (Pre RP, I was a nice guy that just played along to keep the hoe happy--it cut out my own family's anility to see my son on his birthday)

Anyway, I have adopted a very stern method of dealing with her over the past 3 months or so. I take none of her shit--EVER. If she dissagrees with something I say or do, I look her square in the eyes and tell her to shut her mouth. (I have to rewire her brain, much as I am rewiring my own brain, to know that the nice guy is dead and gone forever--lifting heavy shit and putting it back down over and over 3 days a week every week has helped tremendously with killing that weak man-bitch)

So, she changes her mind about bringing our families together for our son. To show him that no matter how we feel about eachother, we are all in it for him. How does she go about trying to not allow this to happen? She sends out a mass text message to my parents, her parents, and all of her family members trying to be cute and innocent, while still undermining me and changing my plans. (Massive shit-test--he can stand up to me when we are alone, but what about if EVERYONE can see?)

Well, again thanks to TRP, I told her to shut her mouth via mass text and told everyone the party was still on as planned. End of disscussion. Wouldn't you know it--her entire family drove the 4 hours to come to me and the gathering I planned out--albeit a bit sour for the embarassment im sure they were feeling...but not my problem.

So the morning before everyone got together for my son, my ex-wife tells me that she will NEVER do anything joint with me again. Me being the although inexperianced RP aware man that I am...call a family meeting with EVERYONE. I lay it out there, and tell them all that wee will be comming together for the little boy that we all love to show him that we are all in it for him...not via text, or phonecall, or third party hearsay bullshit. No; face to face meeting in which I was the unquestioning captain. When I gave my speil, I told everyone that if any of them had something to say, than they should speak out now.

This is when her dad started talking. (BP man...I fully expected this one to happen!!). The guy started off about how it was breaking his heart the way I had been talking to his daughter as of late (again, I don't argue with a woman. Ill just as quick tell her to shut her mouth). But here is what shocked the shit out of me, and is something I would have never noticed before TRP, because I would have been too scared to even make it this far in the first place--the man never ONCE looked at me in the eyes while he was talking to me. So I just as quick shut him down. I figured if it degraded down into a physical fight, at least he would have given me something to respect him for. Didn't happen. He shut up, and the meeting was adjourned.

Here is the kicker, after being an asshole (even if for the good of my kid) you wanna know what happened? Everyone came together. We went to the zoo. My kid had a blast. Then we went to the park, and everyone was talking and hanging out and eating shit and playing with my little man. He had a fucking awesome time!!!

Single dads...be men. Even though I was entirely alone in this ordeal...my own family even telling me that I was being too harsh, or that it is making them uncomfortable, it was my ship from beginning to end, and I did what I had to do to steer it in the direction we all needed to go. And it turned out awesome!!! There were hiccups, and I sure as shit got together with a friend and drank way more than I should have or ever do after it was all said and done. But it was a celebratory drunk. The spoils of my fucking war. Thanks TRP--this shit is truly life changing. Oh yeah, the 48 laws of power is also a solid read--read that shit!

Hope any of this helps-PEACE!

EDIT: Most of the comments here have been fucking SOLID in showing me a different side of how I went about this. Thanks to the men here that were not just being internet alphas but had some legitimate feedback and even better the guys that took the time to offer valid advice. While I have to agree now that the principles I was operating from were flawed, I have no regrets for any of it!! I fucking tried it out. Will I do it again? Probably not. But there have been a shitload if positive changes in her and her family's attitudes towards me in the days that followed.

To all the people who say that "I am now at the will of her and the state"--fuck that shit man! I go hard on this shit--I do my legal research and have my shit backed up. I got what I needed on paper! Now I can enforce. I aint at her will, she is a woman and will naturally bend to my will if I can "game" the bitch. "Pulling"in this case would not be fucking her. It will be getting her to follow my lead through game techniques--just like hottie in the bar. More difficult of a task for sure. And I don't anticipate full compliance whatsoever--I fucked that up the first date we went on when we met. But over time, things can...and will move more smoothly with reguards to my son. And even she can feelz good about it. Now on to work some charm. It will even be better for me; one hell of an inner game workout!