Rewarding good behavior?

GayLubeOil · 2013-10-29T07:34:23+00:00

How about you don't spend your life orbiting your girlfriend? She does something good reward! bad punish! You sound like a controlling dad also it feels like alot of work. How about instead: you do your own shit, pursue greatness try out out new things: work out, try new recipes, make furniture, just make yourself more interesting. Women are attracted to success and are more willing to do things for happy successful people. The less time you spend with her the more valuable that time will be.

dischordiasnightmare · 2013-10-28T23:46:10+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qy_mIEnnlF4

Encourage the behaviour you want. Maybe not with chocolate.

arnaut · 2013-10-29T00:16:19+00:00

There's probably some subtle shakiness in the way that you dole out discipline and ultimatums that's coming off as weak or hesitant to the girl; my guess is because, on some level, you still think of these actions as 'tactics' (cf. your terminology) to improve her behaviour and keep her around, instead of as legitimate, hard-line warnings.

In other words, the girls might perceive you as barely treading water, barely passing their shit tests, which in turn prompts them to hit you with yet another salvo.

So, how do you enforce a personal boundary in a way that encourages compliance instead of further disrespect? Set hard rules that you abide by regardless of your dating ambitions, and execute them ruthlessly. You're going to have to get used to ditching girls the moment they transgress against your boundaries; these experiences will temper your mannerisms, which will in turn subcommunicate to future girls that you're really not playing around.

An authoritative presence is hard won, and doesn't come from the adoption of specific affectations or tactics, but rather from a history of enforcing your boundaries regardless of the external feedback you get from the peanut gallery.

magicalbird · 2013-10-28T22:27:31+00:00

punish bad behavior promptly.

Girl asks me to buy her something without any reason to. I promptly say no, why don't you buy me something?

Reward good behavior intermittently

She buys me something. I say I might reward her with buying her something back.

Title	Rewarding good behavior?
Author	kreative12
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	October 28, 2013 10:19 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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