TL;DR: Why a process-oriented mindset will serve you better than a results-oriented mindset in your interactions with girls, social media, and society in general.

If girls had the insight to invest sexually, life would be very different. You keep seeing a girl at the gym doing squats…cute face, shy, glasses, keeps giving you glances every time, she’s on the chubbier side though. Compare your reaction to a girl seeing a scrawny weak guy at the gym every day like clockwork. The result is, in a few months, you’re plating a smoking babe, and she’s dying for the attention of a buff alpha.

Even if you’re the buff alpha, she doesn’t care about your stories of failure to get there, or even the PR you failed today. She doesn’t care about your discipline, or your perseverance, or your vision of who you’re going to be. What she’s programmed to care for is the manifestation of these traits in you, either through perfect genetics or perfect perseverance, preferably the former. Much preferably. Your frame is a sign of mastery over your reality, experience, testosterone…or an originally-overthinking but daily-meditated mind. Which one do you think she imagines is true?

In her mind, she wants to think you’re not buff because you were built to be a scrawny/fat beta and fought through so many genetic barriers to build on your small frame. She wants to think you were born with perfect genetics that your personality only built on by your natural love for activity and sports…which gave you the mere bonus of an aesthetic body, that you don’t really focus on or even realize how perfect it is. If she starts dating a buff guy who's anal about calorie counting and micronutrients...well you get the picture.

I spent months of monk mode to little avail before making one change that brought it all to fruition: I became process-oriented as opposed to results-oriented. I checked my ego at the door and gave no fucks what the sports I love to do brought, how bad I am at some of them, all I cared about was doing them often, and practicing them perfectly. Because I have a hard time deciding which of them I enjoy more, but it’s a no-brainer that I enjoy them more than gaming girls, another hobby of mine that I sometimes fit in my schedule to practice.