Silent treatment advice needed

wildozure · 2017-04-17T03:26:47+00:00

That's some juvenile shit. Pop smoke and get out of there.

OracleofFl · 2017-04-17T04:19:47+00:00

Is this a red pill sub-reddit? Where is the abundance mentality?

escogold · 2017-04-17T03:23:04+00:00

Think about the future. Will she do this again? If yes, you already know the answer... next

_the_shape_ · 2017-04-17T03:37:03+00:00

We spoke yesterday, she was upset as was I, she said she was thinking of a break but not to break up.

It's as good as over once a girl drops this one. Sucks, but it's time to move on.

I said that I think it's best if we stay the course and go separate ways.

Take your own advice.

Now she wants to meet up face to face. I feel like she is going to try and reconcile. I love her but I just feel like she doesn't respect me. I mean if she wanted time just tell me right? I feel like she was hoping I'd be devastated that she wasn't responding and maybe I believe it to be manipulative.

She's willing to lose you. That's all you need to know. Your "love" will look for ways to ~~hamster~~ repair the damage (i.e. forgive the disrespect), and your hamster will likely yield to whatever her own hamster concocts ("you know I really didn't mean all of that/ you know you're still the one I love" etc. etc.). If you do get back together, this is bound to resurface at a later date and you'll probably find yourself at square one, asking members here on TRP what to do ("gf is doing the silent treatment thing again; what do I do?")

Avoid the creation (continuation and/or escalation of?) a toxic relationship (i.e. needless suffering for the sake of vagina) and put an end to it.

mugenowns · 2017-04-17T03:47:18+00:00

I find the silent treatment to be a present, not a punishment. I love doing things alone and women I date usually catch on quickly that I don't love hearing them run their mouths all day, or being by my side for every activity. I prefer doing a lot of things alone (dinner out, movies, trips, etc) and let them know pretty quickly. They usually figure out that if they try to ignore me I won't even notice most of the time.

My advice would be to next her, but don't even meet up with her or let her know. Just start living the single life again. I'm pretty sure she wanted you to chase her down (I once was 'ignored' by a girl who got mad that I didn't even text her enough to notice she was ignoring me). They love the attention and feeling they get when you make an effort. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction; if she says anything about even not giving her proper closure or whatever tell her 1) she's acting like a child and doesn't deserve it, and 2) she would have known if she hadn't blocked you. You made an effort to communicate with her. She chose to block you so when she finds out you've been balls deep in other women she needs to know its her own fault.

A warning though, I've been caught off guard too many times because women take advantage of the ambiguous times in relationships. Sounds like right now you're together but not really. She'll use this as an excuse when she's getting plowed by some guy. I'm not saying 100% she is fucking someone, but don't be surprised if she does. Of course plenty of women will chest anyway and still come up with an excuse, but I've found that if they can twist things in their head to be "well we aren't REALLY together right now..." They'll hop on that cock real quick. Trust me when I say she's much more likely to get fucked before you do. Act accordingly and beware and time when a relationship isn't clearly defined.

Last bit, for future reference you need to make sure to prevent this behavior. Nip this shit in the bud the first hint of it. Make it clear you're a busy man with options and if a woman isn't there to keep the other women away then you'll end up fucking someone else. Of course you don't want to come out and say you'll fuck someone else if she doesn't talk to you, but don't let her forget she's not the only woman in the world.

TLDR

Next her ass quick. Skip the games and goodbyes and just forget she ever existed. And be on the lookout for this kind of behavior in the future.

Edit: ghost her. I couldn't think of the term at the time but ghost the shit out of her. She deserves it.

asylum1968 · 2017-04-17T04:06:38+00:00

"By this time it's solidified in my head that it's over."

Stick with that^ brother

Arminarmeen · 2017-04-17T04:07:39+00:00

It started off cute, hitting you where it hurts, the blocking and silent treatment, it's fucking cute when they hit you where it hurts, it means she still cares, then it ended up being weird and a headfuck.

You don't know what's going on in her head, don't waste you time on her though. :) next

BestSC86 · 2017-04-17T04:17:31+00:00

A break is simply delaying the end....she wants to keep you in the back pasture in case she has underestimated her SMV and can't attract a suitable better option to fuck.

Hard next her without contact.....she no longer exists.

Barvazon · 2017-04-17T06:07:32+00:00

Have you even read the sidebar?

aanarchist · 2017-04-17T06:11:58+00:00

if she's been good to you, then take the time to cut through the bullshit and get to the heart of the matter. otherwise if she insists on being a retarded cunt just next her. you caller her out on her behavior and instead of apologizing she threw a shit show your way, like a spoiled child.

her texting you about how she hasn't decided yet is her talking like the ball is in her court, which it shouldn't be. you should be the one deciding if she's worth keeping after such a moronic outburst on her part, and she should be on her best behavior making up for her behavior. that's how you frame the situation, and that's what the ultimate truth is and you know it. it's ok for a woman to have feelings, but you don't pander to them to the point where she feels like she gets to behave however she wants and get away with it, and make the situation out to be your fault. that's a very toxic attitude for her to have, she was being a rude bitch, whether you were tactful or not and how she felt about the situation doesn't change the reality of the situation. if she doesn't want to live in a world based on reality and prefers her feelings and ego pandered to at all times, she's welcome to find a beta slave.

if you have the talk you have to stand your ground that you were in the right and she was in the wrong, regardless of how she felt. also you have to set some new boundaries and rules if the relationship is going to continue from there because the respect is clearly not there.

cloudmax40 · 2017-04-17T06:27:43+00:00

GO COMPLETELY NO-CONTACT ON THIS BITCH WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING

Mangoinhand · 2017-04-17T06:13:40+00:00

You disrespected her in public. She Soft Nexted you.

Lift and spin more plates

Mr_Dead · 2017-04-17T06:01:39+00:00

If she wants a break ghost her. She's trying to assert her value. Give her a wake up call. Best revenge possible is to fuck one of her friends. Ironically the less attractive the friend is the more it will erode her self confidence.

TryhardPantiesON · 2017-04-17T06:19:37+00:00

She is acting immature, and you are apologizing for it like if it was your fault.

She was being in rude, and as a man was your job to correct that shit, which you did, you might have been a bit rash when correcting her, but you did it nonetheless. Now she is acting bitchy and immature about it. Stop apologizing for correcting her behaviour and start using dread.

Need2LickMuff · 2017-04-17T09:26:14+00:00

Thinking of a break but not to break up

You know what this means..

She gets dicked by some other dude while you touch yourself waiting for her to get bored and come back. Leave her and find yourself a younger girl to train.

Title	Silent treatment advice needed
Author	anotherhombre
Upvotes	2
Comments	21
Date	April 17, 2017 3:07 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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