Preface For many, TRP has helped them foster a sense of sexual strategy, a core masculine identity, and a need for self-improvement. In that vein, I want to direct this post to those men who are striving, hustling, and inevitably isolating themselves from the bullshit in search of greatness. In this post, I will discuss three notable lessons I have learned in my pursuit of greatness.

Body

  • Pain

Too many men spend time chasing women, chasing instant high, and inevitability avoiding discomfort. Pain and discomfort are as natural as feeling joy and happiness, but have inverse consequences. It is pain that give life its contrast and make overcoming it a defining tenet that gives value to the end-product. For example, prizes that are given out to every-kid in school for participating is worthless. As a result, we have people thinking they can do less and have more, overly sensitive to constructive criticism and agonizing about how their life was handed to them. The prize was too easy, and they’ve became too soft. They haven't earned it, haven't done anything meaningful (painful) to add an intrinsic value to that prize. Without some level of pain and discomfort, the prize is worthless in value. This means that for the kid who haven’t earned the prize, they develop cognitive dissonance rationalized through apathy. In contrast, a kid in Africa, Middle-East, or South-Asia may have very little, but that makes what they earned so valuable. In life you can never avoid pain, you can only trade it. For example, would you rather have good pain (working out, eating healthy, cold-approaching, etc) or bad pain (be poor, diabetic, suffering heart attacks, etc). Most highly-successful people learned to appreciate the good pain as the natural process of achieving their success.

  • People

People come and go, and like pain, we have control over it. Do you want to be surrounded by good people or bad people? In most cases, our affiliation reflect an internal belief we have of who we are. As a result, you must define yourself. Start by knowing what you want (rich, poor, happy, sad, healthy, fat, etc) and then ask why. For instance, I want to be rich. Why? Because I need to provide for my family. Why? Because I love and feel indebted to them for putting me through school.

In knowing yourself, you know your enemy. Know the people you want to affiliate with and those you want to avoid. Much of life is a transient affair: women, experiences, and friends are no exception. For example, I grew up with a group of 4 other guys who all wanted to be doctors. That didn't happen, 3 are now working dead-end-jobs, 1 is currently unemployed. I no longer associate with them naturally and without much thought because we no longer share the same path. Life is much like riding a train through a dark tunnel--it is not always clear, some people get on, some get off, sometime it's empty, but you keep moving.

Naturally, you start to isolate yourself from the losers, the dreamers, and the naysayers. In my pursuit, I realize that many people love talking about success, much like women love talking gossips. For them, talking about success was equivalent to being successful without the actual success. It is a fruitless endeavor. It is these same people who will dismiss success of winners as talent. It is this talent myth that is so pervasive, it's nauseating. This is because most highly-successful people believe themselves to be average/mediocre at best in their field (ex. David Goggins, Micheal Jordan, etc). It is this sense of inadequacy that drives highly-successful people to achieve such heights. Anyone telling you otherwise is either lying or clueless. Talent can only get you so far, the rest is fucking hard and painful work ethic. It is this pain, we have control over. And it is the good pain that you want. It is our preventative medicine against falling prey to mediocrity.

It is your life--Many will envy, some will adore, but few actually matter; those who matter don't care.

  • Time

Your time is limited, you will die, so you better start asking yourself: what do you want, and what pain you are willing to suffer for it.

Postscript

I am a son of immigrants with a chip on my shoulder since birth. Nothing was ever given to me. My family was poor, but they've worked everyday to put me through school. I am grateful to them. I believe that we all have the tools to “make it” in whatever capacity that means to you. This is a reflection of someone who came from nothing and is making something of himself.