is withholding validation from a woman. A lot of women need validation from the men in their lives or random men even.

In 24 hours this all was really revealed to me. I mean I'm not dumb and didn't not know this, but a series of events yesterday just drove it home for me.

Visited my gf at her work and she was digging for compliments on how she looked and how she had set her office up. She was mildly upset that she always has to dig for me to tell her she looks nice.

She knows I think she looks nice, but she needs to hear it. Not sure why women operate this way, maybe it's a reinforcement letting them know you still want to be with them or something.

Then last night I went out for my Xmas party, a coworker brought two girls with him, tall blonde and short brunette. I was talking to both of them back and forth. He wasn't fucking either of them which he's known for 5 years. Friendzoned hard.

But I wouldn't really compliment either one. And we went out for a smoke and I gave my jacket to the blonde cause she had a backless dress while the other one had a full sleeve dress.

Well that made the brunette think I didn't like her and she left to go back inside. It really must have gotten to her that I chose the blonde instead of her.

I actually like the brunette one much better and prefer brunettes overall.

After several hours of going in and out and talking to other girls, these girls were actually complimenting me and trying to get my attention. It was a thing of beauty.

On top of this, there was a nursing students party there as well and this girl who wasn't single kept trying to introduce me to her friends on like 5 occasions and I just kept showing little interest.

TL&DR Had an epiphany of how to maintain frame, give comments and attention sparingly to keep them interested and play them off against each other.