I'm gonna keep this short and sweet since I'm on my phone. But guys, I've noticed a trend with posts which say if you improve your smv/looks/financial situation women will be attracted to you. Although I won't deny there is a correlation, it is not guaranteed. If it was, there wouldn't be posts on asktrp about how a guy has increased his smv and is still in the friendzone. And people reply and say "Oh maybe your smv isn't hight enough.. Go fuck Beyonce and the preselection bias will work in your favour. If you're good enough for Beyonce then *insertname will want you too"

The point I'm trying to make is that you can definitely tell we have bluepillers in this sub because people are still trying to use formulas to try and get girls. And I won't deny, the formulas may work most times, but sometimes they don't. It's as simple as that. Sometimes it just doesn't work and people come back to this sub and post saying "I did this and that but she still didn't want to have sex with me". If celebrities get cheated on then how could there be a consistent formula.

Yes the redpill is a sexual strategy but it's also about self improvement and reclaiming your masculinity. A major part of reclaiming masculinity is learning to love yourself. And realising that sometimes you won't get the girl, sometimes she won't cheat on her bf with you. But when that happens you need to love yourself enough to be okay with it. We talk about abundance mentality all the time on here and it's a great philosophy but it doesn't just apply to women. It doesn't mean get 10 women when you fail to get 1. If you struggle to get 1 then 10 is a stretch obviously. Abundance mentality is also about being okay by yourself. That's one of the reasons why monk mode is recommended so you can realise that you're okay by yourself. Even if you never have a gf you can still have a kickass life. (Some would argue that it's because you don't have a gf your life is kickass).

Furthermore the idea of having a formula to get women (although most times it works) can hinder your self love process. Many dive straight into the sexual strategy, but forget to work on ourselves for ourselves. We want women so we go to the gym to get bigger, but when we break up or get hurt we stop going. It's important to make sure all the self improvement you are doing is for yourself. It's called self-improvement for a reason.

The reason for this is that when the formula doesn't work, you know you're still kickass. When you've been lifting and passing shit-tests and being fun but your LTR still cheated, you will have enough self respect to leave because you know you're kickass by yourself. Believe me I'm speaking from experience. I dove into the sexual strategy without first working in myself. And as a result when my LTR broke up with me and kissed another guy while on holiday I was angry at TRP saying it doesn't work or whatever. I passed shit tests, I was lifting, I was fun.. But it wasn't enough. Some of you will say my smv wasn't high enough blah blah and this is the point. I learnt that there is no formula. There never will be. Patterns yes.. But formula? No. A formula is guaranteed success everytime.

The only guarantee i need to have is that I'll be okay. I can handle it. I'm okay by myself. Heck I'm great by myself. So no matter what life throws at me in terms of women, work, social life, whatever. I'll be okay. Knowing I have enough self respect and self love to walk away from a woman who cheated on me. Knowing I respect myself enough not to let anyone disrespect me.

The redpill isn't just about sexual strategy. It's about loving yourself as a man in a society where masculinity is frowned upon.

Lessons learnt: 1. although this is sexual strategy there is not formula to get/keep women. Learn to love yourself so if you fail to get/keep a woman you will be okay. 2. Learn to be love by yourself. Do all self improvement for yourself. Not to get women.