Disclaimer: this post isn’t designed to supplant /u/mallardcove ‘s excellent series of Tinder guides. I suggest you start there first. That's what helped me take my profile and Game to the next level. My hope here is to supplement those guides with additional advice.
Background
I’ve been a regular Tinder user for several years. When I first started - before my Red Pill awareness - I got no matches. Literally zero. Through improving my underlying SMV and profile, I gradually became more successful. Today my monthly matches (generally HB7+) reach triple digits during peak Tinder season. My best friend is also a real life Chad who gets thousands of hot matches a year. We frequently discuss Tinder strategy and experiment with new approaches. I have a good idea of what works on Tinder and what doesn’t.
Presenting the Right Image
One of the biggest mistakes that you can make on Tinder is giving off a potential boyfriend vibe in your pictures.
For a long time I led with pictures of me in a suit, standing in front of my bookshelf, or something similarly wholesome. I wanted to present a classy, intelligent image. At first the strategy seemed to work. I did get more matches. But there would be more flakes, rejections, and difficulty escalating. In the more sexualized profile where I tone down the nerdiness and lead with tank top pics showing off my muscles, I get fewer matches. But the matches that I do get are much more sexually open.
I somewhat disagree with advice that says not to have any douchey flexing pics or things like that. If you have the body for it, you can do very well among the 18-22 demographic. That is the age range where physical appearance and being "hawt" is the primary sexual motivator for girls. Follow the standard picture taking advice. My Chad friend once had a photo of him flexing his gigantic biceps and showing off his shredded body in front of a picturesque hiking backdrop. It worked, but his experience followed my own. Fewer overall matches, but more girls pressing him to meet up.
The saying around here is that girls already know if you're fuckable based on your pics, which is true. But whether or not that actually happens depends on your real life Game and the vibe that you give off in your profile. My theory is that girls already have an impression of how you’re going to behave before they even meet you. When you appear sexual in your profile, she’ll go into the date expecting sex. When you look too wholesome, she may not respond positively when you try to escalate.
I would rather her believe that I’m a dumb jock only good for fun and fucking. The fact that I’m actually more “dateable”, so to speak, should be a pleasant discovery that she makes after we bang a few times...not the initial thought.
Fuck on the First Date or Not at All
The reason why the above is so important is that Tinder girls have extremely short attention spans. It’s imperative that you put your dick into her as soon as possible so she has some investment in you. I'm not above a one night stand when I travel, but I prefer regular plates and FWBs. Probably most of you want the same. In order to get there, though, you have to treat her like a one night stand. I know some guys may disagree with me here. But in my 18-25 target demographic, I have consistently found that if I don’t bang her on the first date, it isn’t likely to happen...ever.
Don't provide an opportunity for her ADD brain to flit to the next Chad that appears in her feed. She’ll quickly lose interest in you. If you're meeting girls in real life, the dynamic is different. Most Tinder girls don't get the level of validation in real life that they get on the app. Remember that a Tinder hoe is inundated by unlimited options. She's matching with guys more handsome and higher status than you.
I'm not saying you can never succeed by waiting two or three dates. But if you do, you're just making life more difficult and potentially wasting a lot of time. Better to move quickly.
Superlikes
Superlikes are like compliments: they're creepy if they come from Billy Beta, but flattering and arousing if they come from Chad. They are best utilized on girls at - and preferably slightly below - your own SMV. Even better if the girl also has "here for a good time not a long time" or something in her bio that indicates she is only visiting. This way I appear at the top of her stack and I don't risk matching with her only after she's left the city. I've gotten some zero effort hookups by consistently following this Superlike strategy, so that's what I recommend.
Openers
I used to believe that the opener didn't matter at all as long as it wasn't something utterly retarded. But after trying out many different strategies, my friend and I have found that leading with her name followed by whatever you want to say gets more responses. So for example:
Sarah
I dig the Americana bathing suit
Or
Sarah
What's up
Using a stranger's first name in conversation presumes familiarity and is a basic rapport building tactic.
Other Picture Tips
-If you can grow facial hair, probably a good idea to have a light beard. Studies show that ~10 days of growth, or "heavy stubble," is the most sexually attractive facial hair. Keep is groomed, though. Have a barber clean it up for you.
-Have a pic with some kind of cute animal. Dog or cat is the standard. I don't have any pets, but I do have a pretty badass pic of me on horseback. My match rate increased noticeably after that.
-Anecdotally I've heard that motorcycles, boats, Jeep Wranglers, and other adventure vehicles work well.
-Hopefully you've been squatting heavy and not doing pussy workouts. In that case show off those buns with a pic taken from behind, preferably with a nice nature backdrop. I know it sounds feminine, but I get a lot of compliments.
-A lot of guys give off an awkward Beta vibe in their pictures. They look too happy, nice, and effeminate. Google image search masculine male celebrities like Tom Hardy, Daniel Craig, and Jason Momoa. Most of time they're posing with a self-satisfied Alpha smirk. They look relaxed and confident, not overly emotional. That's what you want to go for. It's okay (and probably preferable) to show some teeth, but only the upper row. Don't smile too broadly. Definitely avoid the goofy open-mouthed Beta smile. Keep your eyes slightly narrowed.
-On the other hand, there are also guys that strike an Alpha pose and just end up looking fake and tryhard. It takes a lot of practice to nail down the serious "looking off into the distance" modeling shot. I would avoid it unless you really think you can pull it off.
Height
If you're over 6 ft, put it in. But I have found that height doesn't matter as much as everyone thinks it does. I've only been asked a handful of times. Tinder is a bit more egalitarian in this sense than Bumble. The latter now allows women to filter out guys below a height of their choosing. I'm only 5'9" but I have my height in Bumble now because of that.
Escalation and Desire
Girls who actually want to meet up won't wait forever to reply. This is basic RP knowledge, but it's worth repeating because you're going to encounter a lot of stalling on Tinder. Most of my Tinder bangs - that is, girls who are really into me - respond quickly to my messages after we match, often within minutes. When she's keen, I can get her number and set up a date within a few hours of matching.
I greatly respect /u/OmLala 's contributions, but I think his online Game advice is outdated. In the era of email, you could afford to wait a day or two to reply. If you want to get laid on Tinder, though, I strongly recommend that you do not wait forever to reply. Forget doubling her response time and all that crap. Message her within a few hours of matching, get the number, set up the date...or move on. This goes back to my previous point about short attention spans. The conversation is likely to die if it lasts more than two days.
In any case, a girl who waits days to reply probably isn't that keen on you. If you do manage to get her on a date, escalation is likely to prove difficult. I can't think of many girls who waited days to reply and still had sex with me.
If She Messages You First...
...jump on that shit and escalate to meeting up quickly. It won't happen very often, but there is no greater IOI than if she opens you. Girls will only risk rejection if they think you're a really good prospect. Half of my Tinder bangs have come from girls who messaged me first. You can be pretty confident that you're going to get laid if you go on a date with a girl who opened you.
What are You Looking for on Tinder?
This is the classic Tinder shit test. You may get this either in the chat or during the date itself. Reply with a vague non-answer - "Just looking to meet people and see what happens. How about you?" She'll say the same thing, or that she's looking for friends, or some other bullshit. Doesn't matter. The fact that she even asks is a big IOI. Usually I end up banging the girls who pose this question.
Sometimes you'll get this after you've already had sex. In that case it's more of an honest question. She wants to know if you're open to meeting again. Just respond that you'd like to hang out again and leave it at that.
Snapchat
I strongly recommend that you go the old fashioned route and ask for her phone number. That will give you an idea of how serious she is about meeting you. Offering her Snapchat instead = not interested in fucking. So far I have a 0% success rate of banging girls who gave me their Snapchats when I asked for the phone number.
Scammers
Most of these are easy to spot. Bots will respond to your messages with canned lines and quickly redirect you to some third party website. Sometimes, though, you'll come across someone a bit more sophisticated. Not long ago I matched with a girl who looked pretty legit. Scammers usually use girls of model-like quality, but this girl was around an HB7. She claimed to be from Russia.
The first red flag was when she said that she didn't have an American phone number or Snapchat. I added her on Instagram. At first glance, the page looked real. She had pics going back several years. But most of her followers and likes seemed to come from fake accounts. There were no real friends to be seen.
In our Instagram chat, the conversation quickly escalated and became overtly sexual. Although she said that she wanted to meet that night, she kept stalling. She asked me to send nudes. When I refused, she shut down with "okay good night." I immediately blocked and unmatched.
I did some digging online. There are scammers out there who will entice guys to send nudes. As soon as they have the pics, they'll threaten to send them to all your friends, or you'll get a message from her "dad" who will say the girl is a minor. The scammer will blackmail you for hundreds of dollars. Many guys have actually paid up.
If it seems fishy, it probably is. No real girl will ask you for nudes on Tinder.
She's Presenting An Image, Too
Girls are self-conscious about how they're coming across on Tinder. If her profile includes a sexy bathing suit shot, pics of her drinking/partying, etc you can be pretty sure that she's looking for casual. If her pictures are more modest, she's probably in Beta Bucks search mode. You can still get laid either way with good Game, but why make life more difficult? Apply my previous advice on projecting the right vibe to attract girls who are more sexually open. You aren't on Tinder to find a wife.
Seasonality
There is definitely a major seasonal aspect to online dating. January is by far the busiest in terms of matches. In practice, though, I have found that it is harder to get girls out on a date during the January busy season. My speculation is that a lot of these girls are Tinder newbies and therefore hesitant about actually meeting a guy from the app.
The best time to get laid on Tinder is the summer. For me, the vast majority of Tinder lays have come between May and September. Beginning in May, my match rate surges as the semester ends and college girls seek out some Alpha cock before they leave town. May/June is also when local girls start looking for summer flings. The match rate slows down after July 4, but mid summer is rife with one night stands as people travel for vacation. In late August/early September, another brief surge occurs as leases turn over and girls get back to school.
Final Thoughts
This advice comes from a late-20s guy who primarily dates/bangs girls in the 18-25 age range, with an average age of about 21. If (God help you) you're going after older girls, some of these tips and tricks may not work.
Again, this all comes from the experience of a guy who initially got ZERO matches. I'm not a born Chad. If you're out there thinking that only male models can succeed on Tinder, you're wrong. I'm proof that the opposite is true. But I won't lie, it took a lot of work to get to where I am now. A lot of fucking work. Up to you whether or not you want to put in the effort. Hopefully this helps.
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