This post will add some granularity to the so often cited paradigm of "improving yourself", and explain why you can quite easily become "too good" for a chick.

It is well known that the ultimate sexual strategy for a woman is "alpha fucks, beta bucks" (and not : alpha fucks+bucks, as alpha excitement is incompatible with beta stability). Thus, every woman has two and only two uses for a man: fuck or buck. In other words, every time you meet a woman she will place you either on the fucks or bucks ladder.

Now consider the case in which you have exactly the same guy, but in case i) he is a wealthy lawyer/doc/pilot and in case ii) he is unemployed and broke. I am sure everyone here agrees that objectively, case i) strictly dominates case ii) as being the more valuable person.

Case i) is LTR material. By immediately hopping into bed, a woman jeopardizes her chances of getting him into a relationship, even though she may find him attractive. By prolonging the sex phase, she keeps the carrot in front of him and increases her chances of eventually making him commit to her.

Case ii) is no LTR material. The only value he has is fucks, and hence, the only interaction with him would be a quick lay. A woman has absolutely no incentive here to prolong any dating phase, she will only judge him in the sexual sense. In this sense, it's a true "fuck yes or fuck no" - is he attractive enough for sex he will get it immediately, if not then he won't. Exactly the same guy that was previously being placed on the beta ladder will now either be on the alpha ladder or nowhere.

The lesson here is that you should immediately make clear that you are no LTR material - or atleast never mention any of your LTR qualities - if you want a quick lay. These qualities may objectively make you a better person, but they make it harder for you to get sex fast.