Toxic Masculinity doesn't exist. Don't even acknowledge the term. It's specifically used as a dog-whistle to automatically associate negative traits with just existing as a man. Sort of like "deplorables" was used by Hillary to disenfranchise poor white voters, how the term "thugs" is currently used as a placeholder for the "n-word" by racist idiots, and the sarcastic use of "religion of peace" is used by racist losers to refer to Muslims in the media, the terms aren't meant to explain or highlight any sort of behavior as much as they are used to associate negative traits with certain groups and encourage irrational hate against them. It's a trigger word used to do what females do best: causing divisions by way of Relational Aggression.

These terms are a form of relational aggression. They're trying to encourage a culture where open discrimination against men in public places like work and school will be acceptable. If it becomes publicly acceptable, it's going to become a word used to do nothing other than shut men down by shaming them in public.

Disagree with a female on something, even if you're right? Toxic Masculinity. Focus on yourself and improve your life without helping them? Toxic masculinity. Improve your station at work or in school through honest, hard work? Toxic Masculinity. Don't bend over backwards wasting all of your time or money on a female? Toxic masculinity.

Don't let it snowball because that's what they're aiming for.

It should be as offensive to you to have that term even be used in public, just like it is to refer to blacks as "thugs," poor whites as "deplorables," or sarcastically use the phrase "religion of peace" when referring to Muslims or Middle Easterners. Imagine actually using those terms RIGHT NOW in your workplace, school, or other public places. You would get CRUCIFIED because they absolutely are horrible terms to use and their connotations are KNOWN. Everyone knows they are placeholders for more hateful words use by trashy low-lifes at the fringes of society.

Feminists look at "strong" female role models and refer to them as "positive, encouraging, empowering" but men who have those exact same traits, if they're even allowed to exist in mainstream media anymore, are referred to exhibiting "toxic masculinity" ONLY because they're men and for no other reason. Don't let misandry be publicly acceptable behavior online or in real life.

Don't answer to or acknowledge the term Toxic Masculinity - it's a losing proposition. You're getting bullied into working against yourselves by acknowledging it exists. By answering to it, you're opening the door that allows those conversations to happen and for the environment I explained above to flourish. Toxic masculinity doesn't exist and anyone that does use it should be looked down on and shut-out.