TRP's thought on polygamy/polyamory/having an open relationship?

phe_nom · 2014-08-01T12:59:11+00:00

It is best to avoid the last two unless you have a higher smv than your partner, otherwise you're setting yourself up for some tears and hurt feeeeels. As far as polygamy goes, the majority of people that get their panties in a bunch over are feminists and men that probably can't even handle one woman. If a man wants to try that kind of harem building, and he can find women willing to go for it, go ahead. Low smv males are really the only ones negatively impacted, and I couldn't give fewer shits about people unwilling to work to better themselves.

UrsusG · 2014-08-01T12:57:38+00:00

Do these things ever work out?

They do work out... for the woman, because she gets fresh insta dick on demand. The guy gets stuck trying to spin plates while being in a worse position than a guy who is clean single. Guess how that works out?

tl,dr: no.

NoLongerSisyphus · 2014-08-01T15:38:25+00:00

Polyamory: Because the answer to one crazy woman is to add two or three more.

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-08-01T12:35:47+00:00

No, polyamory is a well known scam to cuckold beta males to their faces.

2014-08-01T13:15:19+00:00

99% of the time its a great deal for the woman, absolutely terrible deal for the man.

The remaining 1% of the time is where for whatever reason the man is already WAAAY more attractive than the woman, and he can pull in plenty of plates without even trying. The fact is though that most of the time he wouldn't have been in a relationship with a low SMV woman for long enough in the first place for it to become an issue.

yeahweewee · 2014-08-01T13:20:32+00:00

id imagine polygamy as the natural state of relationships, though obviously not effective for society as whole(monogamy is often seen as a precursor to the start of civilizations).

polaymory is one giant cuckhold, watching a show about it made me cringe

open relationships are exactly what you should have with LTRs just drop them when they start seeing other dick

A_Roasted_Peanut · 2014-08-01T12:58:52+00:00

I will never tolerate it, and even suggesting it will lead to them being shown the door.

I don't think any self-respecting man will accept it either. Aside from a few who fetishize it, most of the men who go along with it are weak men desperate to salvage their relationship, and think it will save them. It doesn't.

DankPanties · 2014-08-01T13:39:54+00:00

The man in the "relationship" ultimately loses.

Stayinghereforreal · 2014-08-01T14:35:41+00:00

For guys with multiple gals, and an express "no commitment" arrangement, it can work, I suppose. Just having some fun with a gal now and then without having to date or dine or etc her is fine.

I would think that the relationship has to be that way from the beginning, and the man in that situation cannot slide into being a "boyfriend experience" provider while the good, hot sex is delivered by someone else. If she starts to slide into dumping her emotional needs on you, you are then providing the boyfriend experience, and you need to withdraw from the arrangement. None of her emotional baggage is handled by you if you are not the exclusive sex partner.

But if you are in a supposedly committed relationship, that she now wants to open up, I posted this before, and it seems relevant here:

If a gal in a committed relationship starts suggesting that, perhaps, opening up the issue of sexual exclusivity is a good idea, and that the parties should be free to have side flings, I suggest that your default position in response should be the following:

Assume she has started an affair with another, is about to, or has the man completely picked out and is fairly confident he too is interested. Do not freak out but instead be calm and relaxed, as you encourage her to express herself more. Eventually, you will get a better sense of what you face in terms of the actual agenda. (And no, the actual agenda is not she is interested in making sure you have a more fulfilling sex life by having sex with other women.)

At present, that other man excites her sexually more than you, because otherwise she would not risk her current relationship for him. Most women do not seek to munch down a burger outside the house when a steak is waiting at home; women always run home for steak. Men, by contrast, will eat a burger, and then steak, without much thinking about the matter. A woman will not knowingly risk losing her steak to have burger. Hence the indirect, sly approach of "opening the relationship", when in fact, the goal more likely is to find out if steak awaits outside the home, and if that steak is better than the one at home.

The sexual relationship is over, she is just seeing what options exist in terms of maintaining the financial and emotional components, either in the short term or long term, depending on her success at having fun outside the relations.

You will experience about 1/1000th of the success at finding outside sex partners as her, unless you are Jared Leto-level of SMV. But in that case, she would not be asking for an open relationship in the first place, because she knows what will happen.

hohamocha · 2014-08-01T19:04:47+00:00

Polyamory is another liberal word a situation where a woman cuckolds her husband to go ride alpha dick. While her beta husband/bf provides for her emotional needs and validations. And her most alpha husband/bf gets to the fuck her the most, and she does all the dirty kinky stuff with him and she tells her beta bfs that "she's not that kind of girl".

n0c0ntr0l · 2014-08-01T13:31:27+00:00

Technically, if you are spinning plates correctly you are carrying out polygamy. However you just don't make it official.

You see the problem is just how much easier it is for the average girl to get laid than the average guy. It's a raw deal unless your SMV is clearly higher than the girls you are with. Also you have to really not be a jealous person.

I find that hard because I'm a jealous lover (and I'm okay with it, its evolutionary)

DeusExForum · 2014-08-02T19:09:48+00:00

Polygamy is a very viable option to apply in tandem with the extent of TRP theory. Developing a harem that is composed of inter-competitive feminine figures is arguably the best way.

You maintain the frame because your SMV is the subject of their worship . Then it develops far beyond just trivial appraisals of worth. The feminine hierarchy (you must develop a hierarchy so that they may productively manage themselves when your eye is turned elsewhere) becomes increasingly dependent on who YOU are. This is regardless of financial capability, however it is proportional to sexual/phallic capability.

Financial grounding is necessary when dealing with ALL women. However this can be eclipsed by the prowess of the genitals+game.

2014-08-01T14:26:42+00:00

Everyone keeps saying "polygamy is natural" but I think its only natural for the male primates; the alpha gorilla has a harem, so does the alpha chimpansee, but the female primates devote themself to the alpha male to ensure they get the best possible offspring.

panicattackk · 2014-08-01T15:15:02+00:00

I'm pretty new to this subreddit but I have been knocking around this type of lifestyle for a while now. Is the endgame for most of you guys monogamy?

adrixshadow · 2014-08-01T13:11:53+00:00

polaymory/open relationships

In the sense that you have your plates and they have theirs, obviously not LTR. A gangbang isn't bad if you are in it.

polygamy

Now this is a fuck yea! if you can mange it. You have to be good with boundaries and you will be constantly on the alert so you won't lose frame.

Just imagine the delicious jealousy and constant dread game with the girls throwing themselves at you to give them attention.

A downside is that you probably going to drop dead early from the stress,but that's what you get from getting 3 lifetimes worth of women.

johnbranflake · 2014-08-01T20:53:47+00:00

My ex offered me one when I dumped her since my reason was I wanted to sow my oats. I agreed. She had to stay faithful but it was quite miserable for me since I was pre red pill and I couldn't handle her increased needyness. Just be single or cheat on her and keep it secret both are much easier In my experience.

Title	TRP's thought on polygamy/polyamory/having an open relationship?
Author	The_BitterTruth
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Date	August 1, 2014 12:24 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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