Here's when it's ok to NOT try and fuck a perfectly available, fuckable hot woman:

  • Shitting where you eat. You work with her and you don't want to deal with professional fallout. There are plenty of other women out there and it's not worth fucking things up at your job.

Note that this only applies to professionals and people who depend on their income. If you're a college kid life guarding or camp counseling for summer spending money, you GET IN THERE AND FUCK THOSE COWORKERS. That's one of the perks of an under-paid, non-essential, easily-replacable job.

  • She doesn't want you, and you're cool with that. You don't have oneitis, you don't hold out hope of fucking her one day... she's just not feeling you, and you have the maturity and the game to be ok with that. You win some, you lose some. No problem. She's still cool to you socially, and can therefore be used as social proof.

If you know DAMN WELL that your desire to fuck this woman is overwhelming and you'd eat a turd to get next to her, then move along. You are an orbiter with oneitis.

  • Social entanglements. She's your best buddy's ex, or something like that.

And... uh... I think that's pretty much it.

In any other circumstances, if a woman is hot, and available, and you hang around her but haven't busted a move, then you are friendzoned. A beta orbiter with oneitis.

That is all.