Value rules everything to a woman, as in the value she gets from a man and how it benefits her. It is her return on investment for the sex she provides. She seeks commitment from a man and wants the best man possible. This is where the “Value Ladder Theory” comes in. It’s a way to determine in her mind, what your worth is to her. I am not advocating being in her frame, but simply providing a way to think about how she values men, from her own mind.

Below I’ll go over some concepts and then talk about the Value Ladder itself.

First, one must understand a woman has 2 layers. Her base layer, the Primal Layer, which every women has. This layer is where hypergamy exists, the need for survival, and desire for resources, leadership, and security exists. The ability to manipulate to ensure survival exists here. Here she uses her senses to determine the worth of a potential mate. This could mean seeing a man with a 6 pack a 1/4 mile away which is VISUALLY stimulating. It could also mean her smelling the pheromones of a man, which is stimulating by SMELL. In this place, she ultimately feels good, bad, or nothing.

The second layer is unique to her. This is her Personality Layer. This is where her unique aspects and values lie. This is where chemistry is made with a man and feeds into the primal layer where she then desires commitment but is willing to have sex to get it.

These layers are important because a man from a distance can look good (have a 6 pack) but then when she is interacting with him and learning about his personality, is he mentally weak or socially unintelligent? Is he ambitious or lazy? These aspects of his personality must mesh with hers so she can determine if he is worthy to fuck. (A side note, being ambitious isn’t just about monetary success, its about controlling the environment around you and asserting your will. Consider women who like guys with a “thug” like personality despite that man not necessarily being well off financially.)

This is why there is a difference between ONS, dating, and LTRs. A woman may just want a hot guy to fuck (in most cases) but know he isn’t the right one for the long term. AFBB can also exist here.

Stimulation is also important to recognize here as the concept of Stimulation/Response is how we as human beings operate. We see an attractive woman, our body goes through processes that indicate to us that she is attractive (we get horny, get a boner, etc). If we are hungry, our body indicates that by a hormonal process (stimulation) and then we FEEL hungry (response). A woman operates the same way when seeking a mate, even while she has a mate. A man can provide different kinds of stimulation for her and what he provides (or doesn’t provide) can determine whether she will remain faithful with him or not.

Below is a “Value Ladder,” the idea being that women always trade up, they will always desire to climb the ladder to get to better resources and forms of commitment. In this place, you are in the second rung, a man who Demonstrates High Value (DHV)

4 tiers

-DHV+ (a man who demonstrates qualities that she is stimulated by and responds to more so than the qualities that you provide and this may or may not be outside of your control. By this I mean, he may be fitter (something that you can respond to, within your control) or he may be taller (something that CAN’T respond to, and is outside of your control)

-DHV-(where whoever she is in a relationship resides and provides positive stimulation for the most part resides, in this case, you)

-Indifference-she feels nothing and may trade up if something better comes along but isn’t too active in that search

-True Hate and Anger-purely negative stimulation-this is when you remove something she values (such as a job, friends, access to drugs, etc. Something she uniquely values but was also facilitated by her, not you, and also created positive stimulation for her)

This negative stimulation is created by you, and whether it was intentional or not, it makes her feel like she has traded down, which is the complete opposite of her feminine imperative. To get to this place, she would have had to trust you and consider you as a man who DHV in the first place and by being in this bottom rung, you in a sense, have betrayed her trust in you. Here she will actively search to trade up and in order to feel good and procure more resources since you are making her feel bad/sad and are not doing what she trusted you would.

Side Notes-

All of the tiers can affect both layers in variable ways It just depends on the method which the information is received and which layer that information pertains to whether it’s her values or her senses.

There are a lot of gray areas and like climbing a ladder, you may not just be on one level, you may be on 2-3 levels, but that will range from DHV, Indifference, and True Hate and Anger.

You may DHV but over time you could slip into the Indifference tier simply because you aren’t stimulating her. You may be getting lazy, complacent, not providing push/pull. This is a dangerous place because another man who comes along may be stimulating in a variety of ways and she could “trade up,” simply because you weren’t doing your part to maintain the relationship.

The lower you get on the ladder, the more likely she will seek to branch swing. The same goes for her interacting with a man who is considered DHV+. As she climbs the ladder, you become indifferent to her while the DHV+ man becomes

Her personality layer is reinforced by who you are as a man, what your values are, and what your personality is. Whereas the primal layer is reinforced by senses, such as what she sees, how you smell, what she hears, etc. But do remember, your actions, not words demonstrates to her your worth.