In my opinion, the fundamental insight that separates Red Pill from Blue Pill thinking is the realization that, within the material confines of Earth, we, as men, are commodities.

In economics, a commodity is defined as a marketable, fungible item produced to satisfy wants or needs. In reality, men are exactly this. Living, breathing commodities differentiated from livestock only by our advanced brains and ability to reason; bred, groomed, taught and raised to satisfy specific wants and needs.

Blue Pill fantasy thinking tricks men into believing they will be cherished for their intrinsic human value, when millennia of human existence tells us otherwise. The flawed belief that leads to Blue Pill thinking, represented by the well-known post “Why the Red Pill Will Kill You Inside”, is that unconditional love exists as a norm. While unconditional love is a laudable aspiration and men are free to give their unconditional love to others, to expect it back on a regular basis is naive.

Once you grasp the concept that, with the possible exception of close blood relatives and maybe some childhood friends, the world will value you according to what you can produce, then you have lifted yourself out of the shackles of ignorance and are ready to live a life of clarity.

As men, women value us for our ability to validate their feminine nature, provide masculine leadership, produce strong, attractive offspring and provide material comfort and protection. Sex is a woman’s payment to a man for these benefits. If you are a woman’s best option for these things, you’ll get laid. If you aren’t, she’ll find another option.

Employers and customers value us for our ability to provide economic benefits relative to our compensation. If your employers and customers perceive the value of your contributions to be worth your price, you’ll continue to earn. Otherwise you’ll be unemployed or out of business.

Other men value us for our ability to provide social or material benefits for them and will befriend us accordingly.

Personally, my life began to improve when I internalized this concept and realized that the way people connect with me is based on my perceived value to them. I became more successful with women when I realized that I was wasting my time pursuing women who didn’t value me highly. Not only did I do things to increase my SMV but I also learned how to spot indicators that a woman was stringing me along and use these indicators as a trigger to move on to someone else. My business and work life improved a lot when I learned how to connect with employers and customers, figure out how I could differentiate myself from my competition and deliver value to them that my competition couldn’t. I also became better at avoiding and wasting my time with customers and employers who, for whatever reason, didn’t value my contributions.

I think we all, deep down, have a need to feel special. We can possibly fill this need through spiritual beliefs and practices. When the material world assigns low value to a man, believing in a higher power that values humans equally can provide comfort. Human reality though, is that men and women can’t give us the unconditional love that we seek. Seeking the unattainable is a formula for dissatisfaction and despair, so accepting the reality of our existence and learning that other people, men and women, will connect with us based on our perceived value to them, and not based on the false promise of unconditional love and acceptance, is the key to a productive life.

Tl;DR

You aren’t a special snowflake. Stop trying to be accepted for who you are. Instead, expect people to connect with you based on what they believe you can do for them.