What to do when plates are persistent?

Suravira · 2015-12-05T23:16:31+00:00

Stop replying to her in anyway, this is reinforcing the idea you care about her, just document it and block her.

Thotwrecker · 2015-12-05T23:48:16+00:00

You have to understand that this is a result of you sending her mixed messages. She doesn't know if you're a cock to ride on the carousel to kill time or if you have LTR-potential, because you communicated in alpha and beta ways.

If you want a plate, fucking spin her like a plate. If you try to do both, you confuse the shit out of her and drive her crazy. She needs to know her role, and you must establish and maintain that role firmly, as that is what gives her the behavioral guidelines she'll abide by.

For example, a plate I spun for about 3 months started out as LTR potential. She's a cute girl, Stanford grad, seemingly has her life in order. But I find out she has a LDR BF who she cheats on because he's beta and got pushed around into agreeing to an open relationship even though he's not comfortable with it.

So this changed my valuation of her - she's just a hot, smart thot who's using her SMV to get the best of both worlds, and her BB need is filled nicely by this chump. So I'm going to not send mixed messages - we're NEVER discussing relationship shit, we don't do date shit, and I don't sleep over and cuddle. It's just sex and she knows it, because I have never done anything to signal otherwise to her.

Because she knows her role and my expectations for her, there's no confusion; she saves her bullshit for her man and she knows that I'm just her sidedick.

Now, what would happen if I indicated I was interested in more by taking her out to dinner or discussing her emotions and choices, or letting her "trickle-live" in my house? She would go crazy from the split-messages, freak out, tell her BF everything, and try to leave him for me (and then fuck up my car if I said nah, I won't be catching no rebounds).

Now not all women will go as crazy as yours did. In fact, most women will just bitch about you to their friends and complain that guys ain't shit. But you know the quote "Hell hath no fury like women scorned."

You made her think that she had a shot at LTRing you and then you took it away - this is scorning her in a way that will generate that chick fury. If you scorn her from the get go by making it completely clear that it's just sex and you stay congruent to that, she will behave herself. Yeah she'll test your boundaries, but if you remain strong, then you're going to be A-OK.

Subtletorious · 2015-12-06T06:28:07+00:00

this is an askTRP issue. Please use the corrrect forum.

MattyAnon · 2015-12-06T02:56:57+00:00

For girls that are stalkers (and this one sadly has crossed over from "really wants to date you" to full on stalker mode)... the rule is ZERO CONTACT.

This is the only way to deal with stalkers. I've had a couple (they can't let go their emotions after they've been dropped) and they fade away eventually. But... any attention at all (including negative attention, including telling them to fuck off) counts as attention, hope, and flairs up their feelings again.

You gotta totally cut them off and cut them out. If you see them somewhere, you leave. If they follow you somewhere, you leave. If they persist, you get legal help. But do not talk to them, do not negotiate with them, do not feed their need for your time and attention. They are emotional terrorists - treat accordingly.

pcadrian · 2015-12-05T23:02:03+00:00

Most women aren't like this. U got yourself a stalker.

TheMGhandi · 2015-12-06T03:47:09+00:00

Get a restraining order before she decides that you're a target to destroy.

Mr_Badass · 2015-12-06T00:41:04+00:00

She probably finds it difficult to get you out of her mind daily and her daydreams of you are probably distorted in fantasy and nostalgia. She wants to convert you to beta bux,("she's in love with me"). The more she doesn't get validation the more extreme is her behavior to be validated. Since you basically told her that you don't want her in your life, in her mind it means she has to fight to be let back in. Block and have a paper trail of her behavior in case you need it.

BustergunFIRE · 2015-12-06T08:43:31+00:00

Just stop replying to her. Treat her as if she doesnt exist.

RedPillWatchTower · 2015-12-06T14:41:42+00:00

Wrong forum. Repost in askTRP. Removed.

Title	What to do when plates are persistent?
Author	KickedOutNeedAdvice1
Upvotes	4
Comments	16
Date	December 5, 2015 10:46 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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