TL;DR - An overview of what happens when you start listening to TRP advice, dump your shit LTR and put in some work into improving your life (with some added luck in there).

I have been postponing this post for quite some time but figured that now is as good time as ever to write it down. Before I start, I need to say I am by no means an alpha or a fully red-pilled man. I still consider myself a newbie but I am willing to learn and to keep applying redpill principles to my everyday life. The next post is more for the newcomers rather than the guys who are into TRP as the next lines will come as no surprise to people who apply the redpill. This post is to show all of you miserable fucks who have just come here because their gf has left them or because they can't get any girls (or both) that here is indeed the place to be. Read TRP, practice TRP and live TRP. Of course, there'a lot of bs here - everybody is free to post whatever they will and there is a lot of controversy on many topics. However, the core of this red-pill mentality, I believe, can get you further in life than any other type of mentality that you have been exposed to up until now. This is my attempt to give back to this community and to say a big "thank you" to the smarter than me people who have gifted us with some invaluable advice on how to live life.

Context

I used to be a regular guy, nothing too good or too bad. When I was about 17 I was self-conscious that I had never had a gf and so, naturally, when a girl showed any interest in me, I immediately fell for that and we got in a LTR. I never considered things such as whether she's actually a person I actually like on a deeper level or if I'd like to be with her long term. And here is something I am absolutely thankful for - she was a major bitch, If she weren't, if she was nice and all, I would have likely stayed blue pill for a much longer period of time. My betaness and blue-pill conditioning really contributed to bringing out the worst of her out. However, surprisingly, we lasted for a bit more than 4 years. A classical example of a shitty blue-pill, toxic and emotionally abusive relationship. However, sooner or later, I started crawling out of my own ass and seeing the world for what it is. Then came the moment when I first found TRP. At first, and I am sure that a lot of newcomers are like that, I saw it as a way to fix my unsalvagable relationship. Naturally, it didn't work and I stopped seeking advice from TRP. Few months passed by, though, and I got the the point where I couldn't take it anymore - the LTR had to go and this brought me back to TRP. Eventually, we broke up and this is where I consider my TRP journey really started...

Body

First thing to be said here is that it really isn't worth it to be in a shit relationship - you are always, ALWAYS better off alone than in a LTR with a shit person. Once I was alone, I could really focus on what I needed to be focusing on - working out, studying, working, friends and social skills. I got into the best physical shape that I have ever been my entire life up until now and went to several tournaments (I train a fighting sport) and had my first won matches. The months after my breakup I was in the anger phase and this really drove me and helped me - I trained harder and with more fire than ever and this eventually gave the expected results.

This period was also when I started approaching girls. At first it was all about the attempts and I wasn't expecting anything to come out of the approaches I made. However, then came that one night when I was at a bar with a friend for a beer. It was almost empty but there were those two girls. I was in a good mood and a bit loose due to the couple of beers we have had so I went to talk to them and my friend joined in soon after. And guess what, we actually hit it off. We met again two days later and eventually I and one of the girls started going out on the regular. And here is the magic guys - two months into going out with this chick, I have had more good time than years with my last LTR and a lot of this I attribute to the fact that this time I was trying to apply some important TRP principles. Now, I admit, I got reaaally lucky that night - the circumstances made like 80% of everything, I basically only needed to go talk to the girls. I also understand that different chicks would treat you differently. However, I am convinced that if it wasn't for TRP and the things I learned from it, I would have never hooked up with this girl or even if I did, it wouldn't have gone the way it did without redpill knowledge.

TRP taught me to not be clingy, the importance of frame, to not give in to beta and BP instincts. TRP thought me about shit tests and it motivated me to approach girls. Again, I got lucky, most of what I did with this girl was due to luck but I would have never gotten lucky if I didn't try in the first place. Also, here's something beautiful - I like this chick, she seems to have good qualities that my last LTR lacked. However, I am not head over heels for her. She is not the center of my life. I am the center of my life and if tomorrow she stops seeing me, I will not like that, it will not feel good but I'd still have the rest of my shit that's important to me - my goals, my aspirations, my opportunities and, hopefully, the means to go after them and that is what matters in the end - you matter and not some random chick you've met at a bar.

Outro

As bad as my last LTR was, it thought me a lot of things about what I shouldn't do with a girl I am intimately involved with. Basically, my rule now is to do the exact opposite of a lot of the things I did when I was with my old LTR. From that point of view, I am actually thankful that I went through a very shitty LTR with a very shitty person cause otherwise I would have not become the man I am today. I tell you, I was so BP some time ago that it really was necessary to get fucked by a bad LTR so that I could finally see things for what they are.

TRP works and it is a gift for all of you. It's not only about women, it's about getting a life worth living. Making the most out of what you are given. However, you have to use that gift and it takes time, effort, discipline, practice. It is not an easy gift (or should I say tool) to master. Look at TRP as a walkthrough of an adventure PC game. You are shown what you need to do to get the needed result, to reach the goal of the level/mission but you still need to do everything yourself. You need to make the jumps, to time everything perfectly and to kill the enemies. However, you now know their weaknesses, you know what traps are laid in your path, you know whether you should go left or right to reach your goal and so on. But you still gotta do it yourself. And it could be hard. However, you know that it will work if you do it properly and you will get rewarded for it with better quality of life in whatever aspect you want and after all don't we all want that.

P.S.

I know that applying TRP is hard work, I am struggling with it myself, so here is a piece of advice for other guys in a situation similar to mine as this helped me greatly:

  • Make sure that you read, watch and listen to TRP material on the regular. The more you expose yourself to this stuff, the more you rewire your brain to work on TRP frequencies. It's basically brainwashing but in a good way. For example, what helped me with approaching chicks was constantly watching RSD Tyler videos. Eventually, the thought of approaching was so much in the forefront of my brain that there came a natural incentive to do it when there was a good opportunity. So read on and watch quality TRP stuff and brainwash yourself to a better life.