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Lifestylesobrage/r/seduction21/01/22 05:58 PM
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sobrage/r/askTRP27/05/21 05:38 PM
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Exactly. Form is not only to lift more, it's to lift safer and stay consistent longer. Never compromise on form.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/22 02:46 PM
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Get strong. Body as well as Mind. Hit the gym, look good, read books, develop skills and hobbies, get a life you love (that doesn't depend on women).
/r/seduction11/06/22 09:13 AM
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Great advice I use this too. Two questions: do you ask when she's free immediately after she's saying 'yes we should do it sometimes' or later in the conversation/ when you're about to walk away? I find the second one more natural personally. And also are these girls you cold approached? What kind of approaches those were? Just curious
/r/seduction30/04/22 06:51 AM
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By night game sessions you mean street approaches? Bar approaches? Dance clubs?
/r/seduction18/04/22 05:50 PM
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If it's steady I don't have any problem even with a condom , I get this thing happen only the first or second time with each girl
/r/seduction15/04/22 09:48 PM
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Actually I don't mind condoms at all, I'm losing the erection moment before putting them on. It's a psychological thing, not physical
/r/seduction15/04/22 07:02 PM
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Yeah I hope you're right and it'll go away with experience. I do feel much more experienced than before.
/r/seduction15/04/22 05:47 PM
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I stopped a few months ago. I don't have erection problems when it's oral or anything other than the moment it's piv
/r/seduction15/04/22 05:46 PM
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Also a not married guy reading here. Because of this subreddit I've found out NMMNG and read stuff in the sidebar that really connected me to my masculinity and let me see another light of things you don't see in TRP. When the day comes and I decide it's time for a LTR, I hope all of this learning will be put to good use and save me from learning some of the stuff the hard way.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 10:21 PM
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Interested to know, how did you meet her?
/r/seduction25/02/22 12:29 PM
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Yeah but that's not like complaining about legitimate problems, it's just her wanting more attention she'll never get enough of it, so I guess there should be a correct way to deal with it. First it's "text me more", then it's "talk to me when you wake up and go to sleep" and before you know it she wants to have all of your time
/r/TheRedPill05/02/22 12:42 PM
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About your 2nd point, how do you react if it keeps coming? The first time she asks for more attention / compliments / text her more I always laugh and might say "yeah you've been a good girl lately I might send you a text tomorrow" or something, but I've had times where after a longer phase of dating she might give me some "no but seriously, you do have 5 minutes to ask how I'm doing, it doesn't cost you any money you know. Why aren't you doing this? ". Always get a bit stuck there when she's de…
/r/TheRedPill05/02/22 10:00 AM
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Seeing one like this right now and damn I needed to hear that, I do notice now Im feeling this "protective and nice" stuff
/r/TheRedPill05/02/22 09:51 AM
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You've met them at the bar and went on an instadate there and then? Or was is like a girl you met beforehand and then went to a bar and stayed until they closed?
/r/seduction29/01/22 09:34 AM
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Not op but the issue is finding them. I guess you suggest cold approaching?
/r/seduction27/01/22 07:37 PM
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I've never went out solo tbh, maybe it is the way. I just feel like everyone goes out to have a beer with a friend, and hardly believe I'll encounter something really interesting but I guess it's worth a try. How does it go practically? You get in a bar and start approaching groups? Sit alone with a drink looking around?
/r/seduction22/01/22 11:05 AM
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Thank you. I do feel like it's not about proving something to someone, but more about experiencing something that's been missing in my life lately. I will push myself to do things of that nature like you said, this is probably the way.
/r/seduction22/01/22 11:02 AM
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You know what I don't think it's "my path", but I do think it's something I need to experience before I settle down for a relaxing life. Thank you a lot for this advice, to be honest even being a very outgoing, friendly, sexualy open and fun guy I'm doubting that opening up to all of those activities you mentioned will bring me those wild crazy memories that you have described from your life, but nevertheless that's exactly what I'm trying to do right now, and I hope it will lead me to some grea…
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:57 AM
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You know I always find it weird stuff like this "just happens". I mean you'd come 5 minutes later and maybe you'd be sitting there having a meal alone, like what are the chances to have things like this happen? I'd guess that 99% of the time I'd just get there, maybe find someone to chat with but eventually eat alone and leave, so it would be better to stay with my friends in the first place
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:49 AM
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Sounds exactly like what I'm talking about. As a student, not a musician, how can I be the one meeting cool strangers and having those experiences? I feel like even going out everyone just comes to have a beer with a friend and it just feels like a different reality from what you're describing, what am I missing here? Where do I start?
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:46 AM
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Tbh that didn't work out for me, already tried to take a friend and go to the next big city. We had some beer, tried to find interesting stuff but didn't manage to find anything, mostly just people drinking with their friends at the bars.
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:43 AM
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Yeah maybe it's just a byproduct of talking to everyone
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:40 AM
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You mean like going out to clubs or stuff like this solo? And trying to meet people there?
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:35 AM
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That's good advice but what sort of adventure are we talking about? The main point I was asking is how you get on more exciting adventures to begin with
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:35 AM
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Tbh the stories weren't the focus here, I'm literally trying to have a more exciting and wild life
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:33 AM
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Good post, me personally I have to confidence but I don't get enough of those situations. Do you like move around the bar with a friend and start up this conversations randomly? Or is it like only of some group sits right next to your group of friends?
/r/seduction17/01/22 07:30 PM
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This is not math don't treat it like a formula
/r/seduction11/01/22 09:47 PM
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Damn that's a lot. We're you sticking to the classic "Hey thought you were cute"? Or did you try to be less direct with asking for directions / complimenting a clothing piece and such? Also would love to know, we're you inviting them to your place for like wine and cooking, trying to set up an activity? Or was it like Netflix & Chill type of invitation where she knows what she's getting and it's up to her to agree or not?
/r/seduction11/01/22 03:10 PM
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You mean that even if he would've walked with her more beforehand it's ok, but his problem begins when he starts asking about coffee stuff and schedule instead of just inviting her to place x in time y?
/r/seduction10/01/22 03:03 PM
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You mean mainly cold approaching? Or more of a night game / social game? What's been the most successful for you?
/r/seduction03/01/22 04:11 PM
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Nice. Was this at a bar? Outside?
/r/seduction18/12/21 03:12 PM
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Well one should get the first couple plates somehow right?
/r/TheRedPill06/12/21 09:11 AM
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Do girls ask about your intentions? F.e in the first point would you be ok with telling a girl "yeah I want a place that's close to my apartment for us to go back to my place after " if she asks, even before you went on one date?
/r/TheRedPill30/11/21 03:57 PM
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If you'll start doing what those guys are doing you'll come across needy and fake. What you're doing now is great, when you're having fun and providing fun you attract people. Don't switch up to be like the needy folks.
/r/seduction13/11/21 09:34 AM
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If you don't have a serious medical condition that messes up your testosterone you probably shouldn't do it
/r/seduction13/11/21 12:07 AM
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Do you think "your X is really sexy" works only when cold approaching? Would you escalate like this even if it's a person you'll definitely see again? I'm often stuck with searching for a 'mild' verbal escalation, and even if physical touching is going well (arm, hips, a hug) I get stuck with moving forward.
/r/seduction02/11/21 12:57 PM
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Having said all this, are you having fun? Maybe you did those 2200 approaches with a depression face and you don't manage to bring the right vibe? Also, how are you trying to improve this? Post some approaches, some conversations, get some criticism and tips. Maybe even it's just your voice or the way you talk, if you sound dangerous or really creepy you won't succeed in a million approaches. You're supposed to be fun, light and approachable. Do you have female friends? Friends at all? If no the…
/r/seduction02/10/21 07:15 AM
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Thanks. Like other commenter said I was referring to bringing the girls to the table, maybe I wasn't clear enough
/r/seduction02/10/21 07:04 AM
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Great post! With the group opens to bring to the table, I'm guessing you just introduced yourself, asked a bit about them, then invited to the table? Did you explain the situation or acted like those dudes were you're friends? Also do you feel same thing could've worked in another setting which isn't a pool party? Just curious.
/r/seduction01/10/21 09:57 PM
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Do you think being this straight forward is the best idea? Do you go for the date as soon as possible after hitting them up on the phone?
/r/TheRedPill10/09/21 08:44 AM
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Sounds great, good job. Didn't work that way for me unfortunately, I stopped DEERing, started to genuinely be amused by the shit tests or not give them too much attention, but for some reason I was always met with "but why can't you take stuff that I say seriously?". She never let go of things she said even after I went through the whole DARE proceess and always demanded serious response to little shit tests, basically trying so hard to make me DEER and couldn't let me take it lightly. It ended …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 09:09 PM
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Inspiring. Thank you . Do you think the change with your wife came naturally from a change of mindset mainly as a result of all the reading, or it came mainly from some specific ways you started to act differently or deal with things? Very interested to hear.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 01:53 PM
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Nah we probably don't have that much of a different culture, just coming different countries but people are people everywhere..
/r/seduction18/08/21 07:03 PM
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Yes I agree. How do you think I can find people that arrange or go to house parties or events like this?
/r/seduction18/08/21 12:55 PM
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What's that? We have parties at the university but it's like a club, not the best setting to meet girls. Wild house parties are much better I feel, I just can't find any
/r/seduction18/08/21 12:06 PM
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Tips on finding new social circles that actually have some parties? Even in college seems like all the people I encounter spend their night only studying, I don't know any people who arrange or go to house parties
/r/seduction18/08/21 10:38 AM
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No, but she is the clear alpha in the house. I guess it still works and they are happy because she has very traditional values. This will not be a great example for me to follow.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 09:51 PM
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Thank you
/r/askMRP28/07/21 09:42 PM
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I now realize my post was a bit misleading. She had a thing with him not long after we broke up, but I believe him being in the picture was the main reasons for her disrespect and "wanting a break". I guess it doesn't matter much but wanted to clarify that she wasn't a-moral, just very disappointing with her choices.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 06:56 PM
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This is a very good lesson, thank you for sharing your experience. I just don't get why after getting to the conclusion that I need much more experience to really appreciate women and get my standards straight, you're telling me to keep her around. If I get you, you're advising me to keep getting hurt until I learn more painful lessons? Is this really more beneficial than getting new experiences outside of this LTR? Especially if you agree that it's a mistake to build my life with this woman in …
/r/askMRP28/07/21 04:58 PM
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I think I'm just realistic . Do you think it's realistic to not get attached to the first girl you developed feelings for after a 2.5y ltr, while she's your plate?
/r/askMRP28/07/21 04:33 PM
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We weren't on a break, we broke up. I talked to a shit ton of women, met a lot of new girls, but sadly couldn't find interest even in one so I never even escalated it was sad. Probably the shock of the breakup was too much for me to move forward back then.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 04:31 PM
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Thanks. I guess that's the same as saying that people don't really change, and maybe it's true.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 02:42 PM
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I'll be real with myself and say there's no chance she can be one of my plates without me getting invested in a way which makes me be only interested in her
/r/askMRP28/07/21 02:37 PM
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Im not sure I understand
/r/askMRP28/07/21 02:25 PM
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Thank you. With no experience other than this LTR it's hard to manage my standards and expectations, so I'm glad to hear I can find better and aim higher.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 12:37 PM
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The arguments are one sided. Yes I wanted to try a LTR even though I'm young, it's been a couple of years now.
/r/askMRP21/07/21 12:38 PM
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Thank you, it is indeed a good way to look at things.
/r/askMRP21/07/21 11:00 AM
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So you're saying she's asking for more attention because I'm not high value enough? That's what standing between me now and "a HVM she truly loves and respects"? I try not to give a fuck too much, I don't comply to those requests for attention but it's nice to hear your thoughts and get some good reminders here.
/r/askMRP21/07/21 10:57 AM
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Do you think "getting along" is something you work on or is it just about how compatible are you ? I mean is your marriage so positive and light-hearted because of your compatibility together, or just because you have the right frame and do exciting stuff together?
/r/askMRP20/07/21 11:38 AM
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Tbh I'd gladly bring a lot of entertainment to this relationship if she would have just come with some positive and fun energy. Currently it's just passive aggressive and drama games so I don't get any chance to even reward her for good behavior. Sex is great, but not worth it coping everyday with new bullshit.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/21 06:39 PM
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In one of these situations myself atm. She's so entitled, passive aggressive all the time and then giving me shit for not leading her and not initiating enough interesting things. I was thinking maybe I'm the problem here but with every day I think more and more that I can't deal with such a girl, always mad.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/21 03:35 PM
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You probably just hit the nail on the head. Even when staying calm and rational I still care about 'being right', this urge to make her understand I am a good partner and it's her loss to lose me. Maybe I do need to stop letting complains and attempts to change my behavior any attention, and just A&A or simply not answer. It just feels a bit like nuking the relationship, when my frame is "yeah that's exactly the case I don't care about you and I'm a shitty partner like you said" even though I do…
/r/askMRP21/06/21 02:50 PM
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Thanks to both of you. I understand now. I'll set my expectations, and let her make her choices. No rules, I am the prize, she does what she wants but knows what I expect from her.
/r/askTRP21/06/21 02:45 PM
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Anybody care to give some more insight or examples on what would have made him a leader? Was it about stricter boundaries?
/r/askTRP21/06/21 07:26 AM
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That's a very refreshing view, thank you. I guess it always seemed like going this route meant nuking the relationship, and by staying calm and not putting up with the drama it was enough "not allowing shit", but I guess really "not allowing shit" and focusing on myself will be just not wasting ANY time or attention on someone else trying to control me.
/r/askMRP21/06/21 04:51 AM
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I like my women happy and excited, not frustrated and dramatic
/r/askMRP20/06/21 10:47 AM
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Calmly explain the situation as it is and do exactly what I wanted to. But then I also know that in a few days something similar will happen again and we will go the same route with new drama
/r/askMRP20/06/21 07:40 AM
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Me being on my purpose doesn't mean I'm not trying to better the relationships in my life.
/r/askMRP19/06/21 05:40 PM
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Should I cut all the attempts to make this work with her? Sometimes I listen to the things she blame me for and think to myself "damn, maybe I am wrong here" but other times I just think this can't work and I shouldn't look for a future with her since too often we don't get along
/r/askTRP19/06/21 04:15 PM
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I am on my purpose and never accepting the drama. An example would be her feeling like I don't make sacrifices that she would, f.e giving up on an event which I planed with friends to have dinner with her because "we're not in a good spot and we need this" ("you'll never make the same sacrifices which I would", where I won't ever expect her to cancel plans for me) , or her feeling like I don't initiate enough where from my perspective we meet too much anyway and she initiates all the time so of …
/r/askMRP19/06/21 10:23 AM
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I actually disagree. I have a pc which I use anyway, so I like to compare a good 40-60$ game from which you can get 20-50 hours of good time (varies greatly), with let's say going to a movie where you pay 15$ (or 25 with popcorn & drink) for 3 hours of good time max, or going out to eat (for having fun purposes) where I'd pay 25-30$ minimum for 2 hours of good time max. The competition is not even there, if you enjoy video games and like to spend an hour or two chilling with a good game it's gre…
/r/askTRP16/06/21 09:21 AM
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OK that's good advice, thank you. Any other qualities? Any sources maybe for such qualities?
/r/TheRedPill14/06/21 10:04 AM
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Let's say you want to marry a girl eventually to have children with. Anybody have good source or sources to read about what are some essentials and what should one look for?
/r/TheRedPill13/06/21 05:04 PM
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Where do you think he f up in the first place? Let's say he would have picked on it straight from the first time , what would be the right thing to do straight away?
/r/askTRP11/06/21 01:14 PM
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Actually no, that's a good response. Thanks.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 06:13 PM
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By blowing it up you mean going out? soft next? ending the marriage?
/r/askMRP31/05/21 08:24 PM
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You're probably right. It's gonna be bad, maybe for her as well but I guess it doesn't matter . If mutual friends ask anyway, should I hide the fact I'm not coming to not get exposed to this nonsense?
/r/askTRP30/05/21 09:23 AM
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Yes I can learn from the friends and not go there for a while , one of my female friends is an instructor there. I guess it's just hard knowing she has a hard time as well but I'm helping her replace me
/r/askTRP30/05/21 08:27 AM
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So you think avoiding dance classes because she's there is not weakness? It's the healthiest thing to do? I even feel bad about all my friends getting better than me (hence making dancing with me relatively boring) , the competitive spirit is strong with this one
/r/askTRP30/05/21 08:05 AM
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The classes are not that important. It is a good place to meet people but its pretty difficult for me to get there. Will be easier to do some martial arts instead. Maybe part of me wants her back, but mostly it just feels like losing to not go and let her not be bothered seeing me and enjoy with other people. Is this bad? How can I get / what's a healthy mindset?
/r/askTRP30/05/21 07:24 AM
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I guess I wasn't clear. She's going with our (maybe not my anymore) friends to the same dance class I used to go. I kinda "stopped going" because she's there and switched to a different dance, but I like the one she's attending more. I'm sure it's very tough to see her, but then why would I not go just because she's there? Also I want to show everyone (and maybe myself) that I don't give a fuck, but that's someone else's frame as you said
/r/askTRP30/05/21 06:15 AM
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You are mostly right, but it can also be seen as I avoid going to dance classes because she's there. I can also just keep going to classes of a different dance and don't put myself in the test of seeing her getting hit on my multiple guys
/r/askTRP29/05/21 10:37 PM
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She's not part of my life anymore, already nexted. She is a part of my mind unfortunately but I'm trying to solve this.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 10:21 PM
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You're probably right. After all I taught her how to act right but deep inside she's still the same screaming girl
/r/askTRP29/05/21 08:04 AM
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Wish to be as strong as you man. My LTR left to date other guys and I wish I could just be fine about it
/r/TheRedPill29/05/21 08:01 AM
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Look if I'm honest that's me trying to tell myself "it's ok she wasn't all this great" where when we were together I did think she was great. Just overall very quality LTR material.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 11:39 AM
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Thank you. Step 4 is a bit of a problems since she didn't take much of my time but I'll try to keep enjoying my hobbies. Step 6 is really hard. If she comes back after some time and I still feel unfulfilled with our now-gone LTR it's almost impossible to say no. Logically it's also hard for me, since she took good care of me, good career path, had low n count, and overall great LTR material. Plus of course my feelings getting in the way.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 06:36 AM
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Needed to hear the first line. Having a hard time moving on after a breakup as well, she wasn't fat but very not compatible for me. Hoping to realize there are girls that are more fun, so thank you
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:45 PM
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Most man reach their peak after 35-40, don't give up on yourself it's NEVER too late
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:28 PM
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Don't fall for tinder, it's just not worth it for 9/10 of men
/r/TheRedPill24/05/21 08:41 AM
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I'm having trouble to grasp this as well. Just got out of a 2yr LTR. For years everything was perfect, I was her whole life, then a few weeks of me not implementing dread or not being exciting enough and that's it she lost all attraction and years of building went down like that. At this point I'm not even sure how I can trust this again, even if I want the intimacy of a LTR I just can't trust it to work
/r/askTRP22/05/21 07:13 PM
4

Don't mention trp, it's a bad idea. Help him from your experience and knowledge.
/r/askTRP21/05/21 02:08 PM
1

Good luck. Too many people here make the mistake of taking things too far at the beginning
/r/askTRP21/05/21 02:06 PM
4

This guy probably spends time building his muscles more than 90% of guys here I don't know what you're talking about, this is exactly what trp pushes you to do
/r/askTRP21/05/21 01:42 PM
2

I think once a month or two is fine, I know only one guy personally who goes that often (2 weeks) and he's pretty weird about his hair
/r/askTRP19/05/21 09:54 PM
22

You were too excited, same way that a lot of guys going soft on first sex
/r/askTRP18/05/21 08:58 AM
4

Thanks for this post man, this is almost exactly what happened to me 2 weeks ago. From the neglecting, to her pulling back, I also thought it's the pills, I also made exciting plans, eventually understood it was over for her long ago, almost scary how similar your story is.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 09:03 PM
1

Then be whoever you like. Stay true to yourself and if you want to be more masculine make your presence more masculine without giving up your traits.
/r/askTRP16/05/21 11:49 AM
1

All of your girls should know they're not the only ones, then there's no problem.
/r/askTRP16/05/21 11:19 AM
12

Ok so she finds out you dress up to go out and feel confident, talk to some new people and possibly talking to some girls because it makes you feel good. That doesn't mean you plan on cheating on her or anything like this, I don't even see why it's a problem. Anyway that's probably irrelevant now but its just such a weird story, maybe if it's that easy to break things between you there's a lot of underlying stuff
/r/askMRP16/05/21 10:13 AM
2

Be yourself in the way that if you love to dance you should, if you love to draw keep making your art, but be the best version of yourself and work to make yourself a better man. Being goofy is a bit of a problem, you can still be funny and witty in your personality, you don't have to be so serious and quiet but being goofy often comes from a lack of self confidence. Look at some great comedians for examples, they can be extremely funny and amusing without being goofy, they're confident and stab…
/r/askTRP16/05/21 10:07 AM
5

I've never been myself but heard most people need to go through multiple therapists until they find one that really helps.
/r/askTRP16/05/21 07:24 AM
11

One thing I don't understand is how were you able to nuke your marriage that way? You just went for a walk, and as a social guy talked to some new people. I don't think there should be any drama with your wife knowing that's what you did.
/r/askMRP16/05/21 07:22 AM
1

Yeah, but if I want to meet some new people I want to know how to take initiative and not just rely on the chance that someone will approach me
/r/askTRP15/05/21 09:11 PM
3

Some guys like to have some connection with their sexual partners, it's cool. Just aim for this kind of relationships more, nothing weird here. Also you can be fun and teasy with plates, if they're boring you can always replace them
/r/askTRP15/05/21 06:21 AM
1

Good job man. Care to elaborate how reading trp inspired/pushed you to make a change?
/r/askTRP15/05/21 06:13 AM
2

You shouldn't change the way you act for some girl. Just be fluid, the same way as with every other girl, one might need validation, another one might need a slap on the ass.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 09:44 PM
2

You're right. Not gonna let this bother me, thanks brother.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 03:54 PM
2

That's exactly what I'm gonna do. When you start banging hot chicks do you think people around you "just know" ?
/r/askTRP14/05/21 01:11 PM
4

Never thought about this type of women tbh. How do you even meet single women of that type?
/r/askTRP13/05/21 10:14 PM
0

What worked for me is understanding that this relationship will give you more fulfillment than going out with other girls and leaving your current chicks. Once I understood that the other girls are fun for a moment but then won't fill the void, I was content with being only with my LTR.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 09:26 PM
7

As time will go by and you'll find her faults don't worry. Also if you'll believe she's a unicorn you'll put her on a padestal and she'll simply destroy you.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 11:23 AM
4

That's a good comment. I've had this problem with my ex and eventually realized she did only think about me at the time. Also can confirm the switch off thing, exactly what happened to me, few years of ltr finished in a moment of mind switch.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 07:20 AM
1

How do you even go around this issue? When I realize stuff like this it just makes me develop oneitis for my ex who didn't have a lot of casual sex and was attractive
/r/askTRP11/05/21 07:04 AM
2

With time I got the impression that what trp does is give someone who's really bluepilled a strong pull to the right direction, and you're supposed to finds the sweet spot. Some people don't understand this and instead of letting this pull fix them they don't let go and get pulled to the other extreme
/r/askTRP10/05/21 06:10 PM
1

There is no "Is it ok" or "should" here. Every single person here has a choice to take the knowledge presented here or to ignore it. You can be feminine and still implement knowledge about self improvement, purpose, and a lot of other areas of life. Being alpha or beta isn't black and white and is not conflicting with you being gay. Good Luck.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 06:24 PM
1

I just always seen this as the default after break ups, But I guess you're right. I don't really care if she sees my stuff, I'm just not interested in seeing hers
/r/askTRP07/05/21 04:08 PM
0

I didn't say I want her back. I'll fix my point, probably a misunderstanding
/r/askTRP07/05/21 03:31 PM
4

If you can go to a university, you can do a physics degree focusing on nuclear physics or something like a nuclear engineer if engineering interests you. Those are pretty good professions
/r/TheRedPill02/05/21 03:17 PM
2

Sounds about right, but most of the time when I'm going no contact they send me pics, asking what am I doing and such, not really important stuff tbh
/r/askTRP02/05/21 02:59 PM
0

Sure thing, but no reason to lose options because I don't know how to soft next. Always good to be ready and learn
/r/askTRP02/05/21 02:09 PM
0

Well as the guy said, if she brings another friend and after that you still had sex together, you're not an orbiter. If you didn't have sex, you are probably an orbiter no matter if she brought a friend when you went out or not.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 04:36 PM
2

I am young. Thought to myself if she wants she's free to leave, but probably if that's the case and she's not excited anymore there's things to learn from here and I probably need to improve, I just don't see the proper next step or direction.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 08:44 AM
2

Often I feel like I'm doing shit ton of interesting stuff but never post on social media so nobody knows about this, I'm actually not sure if it affects my smv, natural dread and status the same way when nobody knows
/r/askMRP30/04/21 08:32 AM
0

Damn guys what if he just doesn't like 18y olds? Yeah he may have a hard time but if he like 30yo women why would he go for girls that doesn't attract him? I would say it's all about the way you phrase it. you can tell her and sound like a little pussy but you can also say it like it's not a big deal, a lot of strong and alpha guys fight anxiety too in this day and age
/r/askTRP30/04/21 08:30 AM
3

With the point being his wife knowing he's doing those interesting things or the point being his wife not knowing where he goes or where he's been?
/r/askMRP30/04/21 06:18 AM
1

Any tips on building the mystery again if you don't live together? (And already training)
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/21 06:13 AM
3

Thanks for the reply. No, really not needy or jealous, if anything sometimes a bit too alpha and she got hurt a few times. What did happen maybe is me being alone at home during covid, and I'm no longer the most social guy that everybody likes. Now I'm just at home minding my hobbies and purpose + gym + seeing my LTR once or twice a week. since she got her shit together as well and got a nice social circle herself maybe it's not enough anymore.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 10:55 PM
3

Yes I've heard about this but don't understand fully. What do I really gain from this move? It's either she's on the ride with me or not
/r/askTRP29/04/21 09:53 PM
1

Can you explain please?
/r/askTRP29/04/21 06:19 PM
2

Did you ever get knees/joints problems as a result of lifting as a skinny guy? After my muscles grew a bit, I had to stop raising the weights because my body was too fragile to handle it (albite always keeping correct form)
/r/TheRedPill24/04/21 09:42 PM
3

You definitely should take what's written in those communities with a grain of salt
/r/TheRedPill24/04/21 09:30 PM
35

Trp doesn't talk about this. If you fall in love and everything's perfect until you die than you don't need help here, but when you thought that's the case and she cheats on you, you come here and get some sense
/r/TheRedPill24/04/21 07:24 AM
1

Sounds right. What if both people stay exclusive during break? Just go no contact for a period of time, what do you think?
/r/askTRP23/04/21 06:26 AM
1

Thabks, I like your answer. what if you stay exclusive during this time? Just like a mutual soft next for a couple weeks, you cannot fuck other people.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 05:15 AM
1

Thanks. Then how should I act when I want to strengthen the attraction a bit? I'm very much on my purpose and at the gym, and she is as well so we're both busy, plus with covid I'm not meeting any new friends or women, and I think she's a bit too comfortable.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 09:25 AM
1

Tbh may be, I was known as a top social guy until covid hit and now I don't meet any new people and lost a lot of connections and status
/r/askTRP08/04/21 06:29 PM
-7

It's actually not exaggerated, censored if anything but I also never said I want my life to be the same as in the movie, hell no
/r/askTRP04/04/21 04:12 PM
2

Unpopular opinion but it's not good for everyone, I tried at least 8-10 times with high expectations and had bad effects. Don't go in with too much high expectations, try to see yourself if there are benefits
/r/askTRP28/03/21 09:41 PM
2

She's your LTR, if you like her than her friends are probably cool as well, great opportunity for you to meet new people, don't see any problem or awkwardness or need to bring your friends as well. Just go and enjoy meeting new people, it sounds fun.
/r/askTRP26/03/21 10:24 PM
1

Accepting won't change the facts, you need to move on by focusing on yourself like people already said. Try to get some extra work on your career, gym, studies, hobbies, books, the feeling that you're advancing and becoming better is the best cure.
/r/askTRP23/03/21 10:35 PM
3

I'm in the same position, but she never came and doesn't know how to ever herself. Sex god method didn't help - I've implemented it all. I'm thinking it may be the birth control, those pills are fucking up all the hormones.
/r/askTRP22/03/21 10:12 PM
6

Try to get into stoicism, it may help with dealing with your question
/r/askTRP15/11/20 06:38 AM
1

Yeah you're probably right, it's also really something not a lot of people do or have the desire to do (travel with strangers, meetting as much interesting people as possible) so I guess I'll have to try figure it out on my own
/r/askTRP14/11/20 08:22 AM
1

Agree, he's not going to have an "emotional talk", it's about setting boundaries, and he needs to do it or soft next
/r/askTRP02/11/20 07:23 AM
8

You just answered youself
/r/askTRP24/10/20 09:36 PM
1

Agree with most things but I would definitely say a nice degree and a nice job are successes.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/20 08:42 PM
2

If he wants to promote a great plate, why not? Genuinely asking.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 06:46 AM
1

First of all thanks for your replies, really helping me putting together the pieces. I get what you're saying, you're right. I heard a lot of stories about people going after the pussy but eventually not getting the same satisfaction as they had in a good relationship they invested in, plus I do like the current situation. If I get married I'll try to keep it working, not ideal to break it at 38 imo, at this age I'll probably have children as well. Opening up the LTR will result in a bit of a tu…
/r/askTRP08/10/20 07:45 PM
3

Problem is if he moves to a country town he probably won't have that 6 figure software engineer job. But maybe there are places suited for this, it needs to be taken into consideration.
/r/askTRP08/10/20 05:47 PM
8

What you call "game" is faking the things he talks about having. You're not wrong that having game will get you more pussy, but the man you quoted is talking about the next step, and he's right.
/r/askTRP08/10/20 05:44 PM
1

I don't expect her to wait for me of course. If I go now it's the end with her (unless we sort out some sort of break thing). Most of the time I'm happy I have this girl to enjoy my life with, but on rare occasions I get to reject pretty girls and I have my doubts. The future is what troubles me, I don't know how I'll feel knowing I slept with 1 girl my entire life in 30 years. Maybe it won't bother me that much, idk. That's why I seek some experienced opinions here in hopes of finding out somet…
/r/askTRP08/10/20 05:40 PM
1

A man will always have his doubts and considerations in his way to find his path.
/r/askTRP08/10/20 05:32 PM
1

This is not the case. I did try to leave my emotions to her out of this debate for the sake of having a logical discussion. I do appreciate her very much, have genuine feelings and value her greatly, and she knows that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 10:20 PM
2

Thanks for sharing from your experience!
/r/askTRP06/10/20 09:29 PM
1

Didn't completely understood what you mean. She doesn't want marriage/children now, only in a few years since we're too young and not ready now. One of the two sacrifices I'll have to make: either sacrifice some wild 20's memories or my LTR. I just try to understand what's the better approach, how can I even make a big life decision without the necessary experience? Maybe someone here been through a similar story, That's why I'm asking here.
/r/askTRP06/10/20 09:27 PM
2

How do you know the guy's in her head from her receiving a massage? Girls always get some "hey how you doin" from guys they dated, doesn't mean anything, she might be loyal and block him instead of texting back, you don't know.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 06:29 AM
1

That's the best action route. It's not uncommon for a girl to get suddenly a massage from a past partner, doesn't necessarily means she's cheating.
/r/askTRP01/10/20 09:58 PM
1

I will actually not agree with the majority and say you have to investigate a bit more. If I understood correctly, she wasn't cheating on you while you were in a LTR, she was just seeing another dude when you first met and still weren't together. If she turns the dude down / doesn't respond to him, plus she wasn't cheating on you since you two became exclusive in a LTR its all clear imo.
/r/askTRP01/10/20 09:41 PM
3

No, masculinity is not overemphasized, you just misunderstand masculinity. You can have long hair, be expressive, creative and spontaneous and still be a very masculine man. All of those are not feminine qualities at all, I'd even say some of them are great qualities of an alpha male.
/r/askTRP22/09/20 09:35 AM
2

Read "12 levels of dread", start implementing.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 09:19 AM
8

I've seen how in the army little and very non-intimidating (on the looks part) girls can command and lead big scary men, those men treated her with upmost respect and some were straight up afraid of her screaming at them. It's all about how you present yourself and your attitude, even as a short average-dick guy you can and should make the girl understand you're the boss.Especially in bed.
/r/askTRP26/08/20 09:50 PM
1

Thanks, I'll check it out!
/r/askTRP10/08/20 05:46 PM
19

Not understanding social dynamics, as simple as that. When a person doesn't understand what things are not socially acceptable or considered weird he will be the weird guy without a doubt.
/r/askTRP03/08/20 01:18 PM
3

It doesn't matter why she doing this, probably likes the validation. It's ok that you don't want to see new girls right now, you just need some time man it's natural, just don't let her keep playing you like that.
/r/askTRP03/08/20 08:56 AM
5

She's basically made you her new bitch. She broke up with you, then sends you nudes and stuff like giving a treat to a puppy, the thing is it takes two to tango. Don't put up with this. Block her from everything, if needed tell her in her face you don't want shit from her besides what's needed with work, for the new you she is just an annoying coworker you want to see as little as possible. On the emotional side as always more focus on your mission, also start talking to a lot of new girls. See …
/r/askTRP03/08/20 08:04 AM
1

Tbf I do read trp material everyday, it's hardly ever feels relevant to my problems or situations with my LTR. I've tried to find answers for months reading the sidebar and book of pook especially. It does really improve me but always feels like I'm totally alone in this problem having a good LTR and not knowing wether I should just leave this good life behind for the sake of life experiences. It is true that I'm probably much softer when it's about life changing decisions or decisions about my …
/r/askTRP02/08/20 06:10 AM
1

That's the current situation, and its a deal breaker for her, straight up tells me she wants me to lead more and initiate
/r/askTRP01/07/20 05:44 PM
4

Would you like an alpha friend to come and fuck your mom/sister? Plenty fish in the sea man, don't do it to your bro.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 09:21 PM
1

Women will never give me happiness, it's true, but in my view happiness is the ultimate goal of every decision, one step above self development and fulfillment . I do have a goal and I'm in a good place but it doesn't mean that I shouldn't look for the best decision to make to maximize the fun I'm having and joy in my daily life.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 09:05 PM
1

From outside it feels like that's what I wanna do in this part of my life, but I don't really think about other women because she keeps me satisfied. Maybe it's more about having wild experiences in life and fear of regretting being in one relationship.
/r/askTRP07/05/20 05:43 PM
0

Thanks man. I always talked openly about this with her, we're in this crossroad that if I don't have her in my future in my mind she feels like it won't work, she has her own plans which are finding a permanent partner. It just sucks to end it in a place where we both don't want it to end
/r/askTRP07/05/20 05:39 PM
1

Thanks for sharing. Did she demand further commitment with things like getting her into your family or planning far future together. Main problem is dealing with this stuff as I don't really know yet what I'm looking for.
/r/askTRP07/05/20 03:28 PM
1

It's good but she wants my commitment. We both want to stay together but for her if I don't even see a possibility of marriage in a few years we can't go on because that's her life goals and I respect that, but I don't know yet what I'm gonna do or think the next few years.
/r/askTRP07/05/20 01:52 PM
1

Do you have a good source for building a calisthenics workout on these principles? And maybe a good one for gym for when gyms will open
/r/TheRedPill19/03/20 12:52 PM
1

I'm not planning anything that's the thing. I'm just having fun with the current situation, can't know what will be in a year or even in a month
/r/askTRP10/10/19 07:10 PM
1

What my mindset should be?
/r/askTRP02/10/19 10:51 AM
1

Can you give an example please? You mean something like "Why do you worry so much? It's weird for someone like you"?
/r/askTRP02/10/19 10:50 AM
5

I'm sure she does, it's all games after all...
/r/askTRP01/10/19 04:03 PM
1

I do have shit to do, work and hobbies and they all know it but "it takes a minute to text me 'whats up' so what's the problem" . This shit always leaves me stuck, I just don't know how to respond to this. edit: typo
/r/askTRP01/10/19 03:59 PM
5

But then what's my reason not to talk to her / not to answer her all this time?
/r/askTRP01/10/19 03:49 PM
2

Somehow even if I immediately change subject I get called out on the ignore the most.."You didn't answer me, *repeats question"
/r/askTRP30/09/19 06:21 AM
1

You are 100% right, but the depression thing has been going on for years now. He lacks any meaning, any motivation and any goals and I just don't know how to even start with a case like this.
/r/askTRP29/09/19 05:35 PM
1

Tbh I dont like this fake shit. You wants to fuck? Let's go You dont want to fuck? Then don't pretend like you do, it's very fake and obvious when that's the case
/r/askTRP07/08/19 09:53 PM
1

I'm sure my game is not right that's why I'm grateful for any advice. Was saying that I don't think the sex itself is the problem, she doesn't even rejects sex she is willing to do it for me, but I don't want it. My goal is to make her attracted to me as she was before.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 09:22 PM
1

The sex itself and whatever leads to it is not a problem, she just doesn't want it that much anymore and even told me she's not as horny for me as she was
/r/askTRP07/08/19 09:04 PM
1

What if it's nothing specific I want from her? Just don't want to give her more attention.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 06:51 PM
2

How do I do that without sounding like it's whining or like I'm jealous?
/r/askTRP07/07/19 07:44 PM
1

She just gets sad and asks me for help with me not giving her attention (she thinks it's a communication problem? Idk)
/r/askTRP26/06/19 07:17 AM
0

Going for a walk with other girls (which apparently she don't like lol), withdrawing attention
/r/askTRP26/06/19 07:16 AM
2

I can see what you mean. How do you think I should react to her requests or complaints about attention or dread actions?
/r/askTRP26/06/19 07:15 AM
1

Yeah basic limits are common knowledge but saying I won't tell her my opinion even on grey area matters (bc tbh I don't even know myself what will be a problem for me. I should give her space even with things I'm not 100% into cuz if not that's just me being a jealous beta who is too afraid to lose is gf) its an opening for ruining the LTR.
/r/askTRP18/06/19 12:09 PM
1

It's not an absolute answer and it's a LTR she's not a plate, she demands specific limits so there won't be any problems. Unless I tell her "don't ask me and so what you think is right" I can't expect her to know what I think.
/r/askTRP18/06/19 11:56 AM
1

But then I go for a night walk with a girl I was banging and she knows it and sees it as the same thing... It becomes a problem for me saying something is a problem when clearly I don't act accordingly. And what about the whole "do what you think is right" thing than?
/r/askTRP18/06/19 11:53 AM
1

So I should tell her to trust herself? She'll want to know whether to ask my first for those kind of things or just go with what she thinks. If she goes with what she thinks I can't really say there was a problem with certain action she did
/r/askTRP18/06/19 11:47 AM
1

Yeah but we do meet and she's actually really good to me. Just need to solve this little thing with her and she will prefer we talk about it
/r/askTRP09/06/19 05:28 PM
1

That's a great idea. How do you think I should refer to this problem when we'll get to talk about it? I let her talk about our problems if she does it in a calm and respecting way.
/r/askTRP09/06/19 05:15 PM
1

Wait for one you like man..The first sex will probably be bad and I'd say doing it with a girl you like will be a better experience. But that's not that important, if you feel like it, you can go for it, if no then don't.
/r/askTRP09/06/19 05:11 PM
1

Any good articles or posts about "Keep the relationship in YOUR frame"?
/r/TheRedPill25/05/19 01:50 PM
1

I don't really agree. Why wouldn't I use such an effective tool? She does something I don't like - I withdraw attention even if just for a couple of hours, and it works great cuz most of the time I'll call and hear how much she missed me and how much she loves me.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 08:30 PM
1

Now after a day of attention withraw she just texted me that I'm amazing and she glad that I'm here and stuff like that. How do I respond to such positive and emotional massages without coming off too emotional while also "rewarding" her (so she won't feel like it was a mistake to send me those things)?
/r/askTRP14/03/19 08:34 PM
2

Damn. Thank you so much this is exactly whats happening rn, I'm glad there are people like you willing to help from their own experience. Best of luck to you mate
/r/askTRP14/03/19 08:50 AM
1

Thank you so much, great advice. If I withdraw some attention I believe she'll pretty soon ask what's going on. Should I act like everything is the same and nothing's wrong? I don't want it to go to a "our thing's fading out, he probably doesn't want me as much anymore" direction either.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 11:03 PM
1

She actually talked a few times about me not taking her to interesting places. Then I got a little mad, reminded her all the times I did take her to interesting places just this month and she kinda apologized. Plus how does a picnic inject peak emotions? Dominant sex is my default, although the last few times she did want something more intimate and romantic.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 02:17 PM
11

Already hitting. Hard.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 01:53 PM
2

And then what? I ignore her "no, but seriously I want to understand how you feel"? Another example can be "what do you like about me?" A classic one, but after I confidently pass her test shell go "no, but seriously. you never answer me honestly"
/r/askTRP25/02/19 08:28 AM
1

Than how do I know when's the right time for me to say it back? Kinda confused
/r/askTRP25/02/19 08:23 AM
1

It's not like she's mad at me if I don't answer, she is pretty submissive and we're happy so tbh I don't really see a reason to next
/r/askTRP15/01/19 02:03 PM
1

A couple weeks And like a month
/r/askTRP15/01/19 11:55 AM
1

From my experience the second you do something formal like this you both start to lose attraction
/r/askTRP06/01/19 12:32 PM
1

She told me straight up she want us to be exclusive. Now she asks about the specifics like wtf am I supposed to do draw you a chart of "do and don't do"?
/r/askTRP06/01/19 12:13 PM
-3

Thanks, but that's not what I asked. I can hit the gym if I'll decide that's what I want, but I just asked if it's possible to get bigger and have a nice body from street workout.
/r/askTRP29/12/18 02:37 PM
-2

I can easily stop after class to get a 8 set 25 minutes workout with some music on some bars on my way home then just go home and eat after I put all of my energy on the workout. Going to the gym requires actively freeing some hours out of the week, which is really busy anyways. Im not saying it's not possible, it definitely is but it has a pretty great price to it.
/r/askTRP29/12/18 01:58 PM
1

Any more thoughts?
/r/askTRP29/12/18 12:22 PM
1

Damn that's actually fixed my thoughts real good. Thanks man. Only thing is I'll still see her at least one every few days and probably I'd get to hear some new bf stories (that she'll tell her friends when we sit together) but I guess I'll just have to ignore it and treat her like any other female friend.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:10 AM
1

Should I wait her to tell me about this? She's probably now like waiting to see if her other dates will work out and if they will she'll tell me it's over (she won't go 2 fwb/ FWB + LTR at the same time, I know her) . Or next time I meet her to fuck and I instead just tell her I feel shes generally disrespectful and not rly with me (or some other bullshit) and so it's over? I mean if things get solved and we stay as we were before this mess why should I give up on great sex? The answer is becaus…
/r/askTRP28/12/18 12:27 AM
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You can be an introverted red pilled successful guy, nothing wrong with that. Id say keep it up while you want to, don't see a reason to stop if it makes you happy. PS can you recommend some books?
/r/askTRP13/12/18 08:07 AM
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You think I should have declined this exclusivness thing? And what do you think I should do about it now? Should I say I changed my mind about it? It will just lead to her going for more options her wanting me less cuz she has others.
/r/askTRP03/12/18 09:07 PM
1

That's some really good advice, thanks. But don't you ever enjoy a females group company? Like just sitting with a bunch of girls talking about bullshit and playing stupid teenager games? I love that shit, but it doesn't go well with all the "either study or pussy, no bullshit" attitude.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 08:40 PM
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Damn, maybe I'm being too supportive? Should I straight up be in a "I'm not here to solve your problems" attitude unless I'm really needed? Don't give advice to a girl trying to break up with her dude? Or the girl trying to solve some problem with her ex? On the other hand things like studying with a girl or going for a walk talking about a bunch of shit shouldn't be bad. Am I wrong?
/r/askTRP13/11/18 08:09 PM
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How would you describe assertive behavior? Got praises for my confidence from girls. No. There are so much people that I don't really hang out a lot with most of them (don't have time) and generally don't care that much so I wouldn't say I'm seeking validation.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 07:36 PM
1

I'm perceived as a good but flirty guy with frame. I guess they themselves can't really guess wether I'm a virgin or not. Obviously can't really trust some chicks I know for a few weeks, and really I have no idea how them knowing about my virginity will affect their views on me (tho overall I shouldn't really care)
/r/askTRP07/11/18 11:04 AM
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Can't agree with the "grab # and leave quick" idea. If you can you should go for the kiss / instadate or something more. If not possible and the conversation is boring, only then you take the number and leave.
/r/askTRP01/11/18 04:22 PM
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Update: met a lot of friends of friends (females), flirting a bit stronger cuz they like me. At least 2 girls already told me they consider me as a good friend (a guy asked them if I'm hitting on them. I wasn't). Didn't let it bother me anyway.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 11:57 AM
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All of those girls groups are dangerous, I feel like if I'll isolate and she'll take this in a wrong way, all of her friends will think I'm some kind of a creep
/r/askTRP24/10/18 03:32 PM
1

I live in Israel, when it comes to modern life culture like clubbing id say we are pretty much between European (a huge percentage of the people are European) and American (just generally influenced a lot by American culture)
/r/askTRP14/10/18 05:56 PM
1

If she grabs your arm do you take her away from her friends and your friends? Maybe I should go to bigger venues. Yesterday I went out with a female friend and the place was pretty small, after half an hour I have already seen all the people there twice and all the groups were pretty obvious. Everyone just dancing within their friends. Moreover I'm sure girls thought my friend is my gf and so she didn't even help as a wing lol. The problem with bigger venues is that the music and the people usua…
/r/askTRP14/10/18 05:15 PM
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How do you proceed to make out with a girl or even grinding from dancing near them? From my experience most of the girls are in groups of 3-4 (sometimes with guys as well) and won't feel comfortable grinding on you as their friends are there, even if you enter their circle and they smile as you all dance together I'm not able to walk to one girl and dance with her alone as they are all together in a group and are getting approached every minute so they develop this kind of shield. And I'm saying…
/r/askTRP14/10/18 04:14 PM
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I am pretty good looking and fit. Still can't seem to grasp the concept, I'm dancing and having a lot of fun but still I don't really get to meet enough girls, it's pretty rare that one will welcome me to dance with her as they are there in groups of 3-4 and probably are not comfortable with some guys entering their circle
/r/askTRP13/10/18 11:54 PM
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Already doing, my confidence is good and I'm feeling great at the club. This time id like to hear some more specific advice about having fun and what should I be doing at the club besides dancing with my friends because part of the fun is meeting someone new, only that here you can't really have a conversation
/r/askTRP13/10/18 06:43 PM
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Breakdancing or any other dance Other martial arts Maybe joining a running group or some kind of outdoor exercising group Beach sports like volleyball or a surfing club (although surfing's pretty expensive) Acrobatics / gymnastics Maybe some kind of musical group or amateur choir Hiking groups? (I'm not even sure if it's a thing but probably it exists) Indoor climbing gym or group or something of this sort There are surely things here you find interesting
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:34 PM
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Happens to me as well but after one fucking month. Everytime. Don't really know how to deal with this shit I don't want to be in this cicle of getting bored of a girl after a month. What will I do when it's the right time for a LTR? Hope you (and me) can learn something useful
/r/askTRP24/09/18 07:28 PM
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Yeah probably it's a thing because I'm 18, but anyway I'm not really sure how to deal with it. It's the vast majority of girls that play those games, she want to have sex with me and to get me she wants me to think that she is super busy when in reality she just sitting there waiting for 2/5/20 hours to pass or whatever to text me back
/r/askTRP24/09/18 06:34 PM
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Then we don't talk to the same girls. Most of the girls I know (as well as those that are into me) are waiting a certain amount of time to text me on purpose to tease me. I know this kind of stupid games too well, it's really common and I heard a lot of times girls saying "no girl don't reply to him so fast, let him wait it drives them crazy"
/r/askTRP24/09/18 06:23 PM
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Texting doesn't replace face to face conversations in any way for me. Sometimes it's just girls that I met through insta dm's and so we text before meeting or just girls that text me casually and I genuinely enjoy text game anyway
/r/askTRP24/09/18 06:18 PM
3

Just wondering, when people here say sidebar they mostly mean the sidebar of the forum or "The Red Pill Sidebar" book?
/r/askTRP22/09/18 10:36 AM
1

Being uninterested does not equal being confident. If you want to be active in the conversation you should, and you definitely can do so while staying confident and holding your frame
/r/askTRP22/09/18 10:33 AM
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I think you should stop thinking about her and move on for now, waiting 2 months with some strategy to get her is crazy and just wrong. She's not that special. Live your life, meet new women, if she'll suddenly come to your mind in a few months you can hit her up and invite her out or something cuz you haven't seen each other for a while.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 09:17 AM
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​ Shit-Test 1: ”Bring me my shoes!!" // LTR, ONS, Plate didnt hear the magic word ​ Shit-Test 2: ”Who are you?” // Cold appraoch your next boyfriend / a magician from a land far away / anything stupid like that ​ Shit-Test 3: ”Do you have a girlfriend?” // Cold approach, Plate at least 7 / Not that I know of ​ Shit-Test 4: Your plate: ”Josh asked me to hang out with him at the beach and offered me free gym lessons." Go for it, I love Josh Shit-Test 5: Your LTR: ”Josh asked me to hang out with hi…
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 07:13 PM
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Yeah I guess you're right, my pov about it kinda changed now and I'll just do it on the next opportunity cuz why not. Thanks man
/r/askTRP26/08/18 10:09 AM
1

Should I really? that means I should probably lie to all my friends and girls (that'll ask) without giving any explanation (cuz I don't have an explanation since it's a lie) Just feel like it won't hold and they'll just think I'm ashamed of my situation and trying to be cool
/r/askTRP25/08/18 08:22 PM
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But if you consider it a life changing event, don't you think it shouldn't be with just any girl? cuz like the curiosity and excitement is part of the experience, if I just do it on a ONS i kinda lost the experience of a girl that is either experiencing it for the first time with me or either is going with me through this moment or something I don't even know how to explain it, I guess I feel like it would just be a "meh" one that way
/r/askTRP24/08/18 08:53 PM
1

Ok the main thing that bothers me is probably when girls or people think its a big deal for me or like that I'm bothered by it even tho I'm not and I always try to give the right impression that I'm not bothered by it but probably failing to do so
/r/askTRP24/08/18 07:46 PM
1

Yeah I had a situation where I chose no to have sex with a girl even tho she kinda pushed towards it because I wasn't even sure I like her, she was kinda average and it was at a time when I just started to lose interest in her so I just didnt want to rush it when I don't even sure I want to. But I guess its not a big deal, maybe I should just get over this first time thing and just do it at the first opportunity that comes, even if its a ons?
/r/askTRP24/08/18 07:43 PM
1

Don't know the city and all my friends are currently away /:
/r/askTRP12/08/18 12:36 PM
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Thanks for sharing man, this post surely gave some motivation to some dudes out there. As someone that is now starting to witness his self improvement and finally is getting results, don't you feel like a LTR is slowing you down or blocking you improving further in a way?
/r/TheRedPill05/08/18 09:20 PM
1

Can you elaborate about your thoughts on the sidebar?
/r/TheRedPill05/08/18 09:17 PM
1

But it's just me and my friend
/r/TheRedPill01/08/18 12:32 PM
1

Going to a festival today, but with only one friend and he has a gf. Dont think he'll be down to approach girls, what should I do?
/r/TheRedPill01/08/18 07:39 AM
1

i'd say the same two weeks ago. I went to a party of some people I bearly know , met this girl and it all went down really quickly. Just get out and do stuff, it all happens quicker than you think but you have to get out and do it, improve day by day night by night and always meet new people
/r/askTRP23/05/18 12:13 PM
1

Sounds about right, do you have any tips on being more aggressive and showing sexual intent for me?
/r/askTRP26/02/18 07:23 PM
2

Some people don't understand that every guy is different. Its totally fine man, it doesn't make you a pussy nor a bp
/r/askTRP01/02/18 11:27 PM
1

In that case I think I'll hide it. She will find about it herself one day
/r/askTRP01/02/18 11:14 PM
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