So I’ve got three guys who I’ve known for like 15 years. In the last year or so, I’ve become increasingly paranoid about their motives to see me. Guy 1 was visiting from out of town and would always suggest going to dinner (never lunch). He has a partner both times. While this is a sign that we had a successful platonic friendship, I grew more and more suspicious of why he only wanted to see me at night. In the last visit I decided to cancel dinner with him and he was obviously caught off guard and seemed honestly confused. He asked me why and I told him my reasons. Mostly that I didn’t want his partner to find out and either label me as a something I’m not. So was I being paranoid and made our friendship very awkward? He no longer likes any photos on my Instagram but watches all my stories.

Guy 2 - I had slept with a few times and enjoyed it. But I started to feel like a booty call whenever he was visiting. So on his most recent visit I decided to see him during the day for lunch or something. He seemed very busy every single day so I was sensing this was on purpose. On his last weekend he was very keen to come over with wine to hang out. I declined and he left town. We still follow each other online but don’t interract.

Guy 3 - was someone I trusted until last week when he asked me for a massage. I got very angry and blocked him everywhere except Instagram. He’s restricted on there.

Today I feel like I’ve made enemies with 3 people and I can’t reassure myself anymore that I was doing the right thing. I don’t know if I’m delusional and think they all want to have sex with me or if they actually want to be my friend. Either way I feel like I’m a bitch and they all think I’m crazy. I don’t know anymore.