Depressed ex won't stop calling. How to stop feeling scared and guilty?

thelightsource12 · 2021-01-05T00:28:19+00:00

Sis, you are absolutely doing the right thing, just seeing his number in your call log gives you anxiety! This guy used to make you feel so crappy and now he's not even on your life anymore and is ruining your day. Don't let him have this power over you, he does not deserve your concern or empathy please focus on yourself! You basically answered your question yourself because you said you would really like to keep him blocked! Changing your number might be a good option honestly :) sending love, don't let idiots from the past get you down

dollymyfolly · 2021-01-05T02:36:48+00:00

Remember that you’re only responsible for yourself and remember men will absolutely use their own shitty mental health to control you. Not your zoo, not your monkeys!

43rdaccount · 2021-01-05T21:25:09+00:00

honestly, my first reaction was like damn maybe you could reach out to a common friend and ask them to tell him to get a therapist/go to a ward..? BUT, then i really tried to imagine the situation. imagine being so heartbroken from a breakup.. what do women usually do? we immediately looks things up online, try to make sense of our emotions. how many of us here have questioned our sanity bc of relationships (romantic or even friends)? it's not a big assumption to guess that this guy is aware he needs professional help, whether from before the breakup, bc of this breakup, or from how he's living in his day-to-day... it's even likely you've told him repeatedly yourself

now honestly it's on him to choose to be better. im not dismissing how mental health debilitates you, im speaking from experience, unless youre a minor or someone's safety is at risk, unless there is someone actively trying to go through the hoops of involuntary psychiatric hospitalization, he will literally stay the same until he decides to do something about it. even if you were speaking to him now, even if his mother was trying to take care of him now, no one would be able to send him to therapy or really help him, he would still need to choose this for himself

so honestly, the fact that he's calling shows he hasnt taken that step, which means theres really really nothing you can do for him. responding or acknowledging this behavior in any way will only bring a mess to your life and mental health. so really good on your for staying strong!

Title	Depressed ex won't stop calling. How to stop feeling scared and guilty?
Author	super_thinker_
Upvotes	12
Comments	5
Date	January 4, 2021 11:45 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askFDS
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