Hello fam! I’m a 29F, and have a history of being in mildly abusive relationships. I’ve always fancied the chase, giving into love bombing, and being super kind, loving and forgiving in the 2 most serious relationships of my life - both of which ended leaving me in a state of despair.

I am seeking therapy to understand where the gaps are in my understanding of ‘love’ and what can I do to not fall into my default patterns, however my question is - I try everything in my capacity - keeping it interesting on Instagram, being out and about meeting people (I’m inherently an introvert so this doesn’t come easy), going to the gym, progressing in my career, traveling, but am just not finding ‘the-one’.

Not sure what am I missing. OLD intimidates me as it’s purely a numbers game.

Any advise? Thanks

TL;DR - sick of working on myself and waiting for ‘the one’. Any advise?