Need Advice

Sea_Soil · 2020-11-06T17:53:28+00:00

Your boyfriend should be setting his own boundaries. If he respected you he wouldn't be hanging out one on one with this girl, and especially wouldn't let her into his room and literally into his bed. That's absurd. It's a big red flag that he thinks that's okay to do when he's in a relationship, and I wouldn't be surprised if he has cheated.

I'd break up with someone for this. It's incredibly inappropriate. I don't think he takes your relationship seriously. Do you think this is okay?

What else does he need to be told isn't appropriate? Are you going to catch him exchanging nudes with this girl and he gets away with it because ,"whoops, I didn't know it wasn't okay!". These things should be common sense.

throwaway23004345 · 2020-11-06T16:36:34+00:00

“Lotions” sure.....

strawberrychampagnez · 2020-11-06T20:39:42+00:00

I would breakup with him. LVM behavior. There is no man who woudn't see this is inappropriate behavior, he's testing you to see what he can get away with on the low

seraphinelysion · 2020-11-07T01:35:41+00:00

Huh. We all just gonna gloss over how he happened to mention these small instances before and then it went to radio silence on the topic for a couple of months? Like, he never mentioned another one of their interactions again? Like, did he just learn not to talk about it with you cause you made it into a problem? I hate to speculate since I don't know all the details, but I find that extremely strange. If he casually mentioned these interactions before, then if he had talked to her and installed some boundaries with her, he would have casually mentioned that to you by now. Don't you think? 🤔

Title	Need Advice
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	10
Comments	11
Date	November 6, 2020 4:24 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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