Alpha dealing with submissive fetish

irateMD · 2015-11-26T22:50:53+00:00

If you like it and she's into it, then go for it. It doesn't make you "less alpha" to do the things you enjoy on your own terms, even if the things you enjoy are not examples of constant dominance. If she's turned off by it, then hold off for a while and slowly inch toward the activity you want as your SMV continues to rise.

As you change and improve yourself, she will change in response. Her preferences in the bedroom will change too. As you introduce new things, her preferences will continue to change. Try it now, and continue if you are into it. If it doesn't work for you now, try again in a few months.

Sepean · 2015-11-27T07:45:30+00:00

I think you'd get better tips from the BDSM community. There are people who switch dom/sub, and people who "top from the bottom" (that's when the submissive is actually the one running the show; it's normally seen as a bad thing but it might be just what you want).

Remember that the BDSM community is often very blue pill though, so take it with a grain of salt.

nightdepartures1 · 2015-11-26T19:59:41+00:00

Alpha isn't black and white - it doesn't mean being in charge all the time and never allowing your partner, friends, or family to make decisions on their own.

In the bedroom, I have no problem letting go of control. It usually leads to the best sex when she's getting exactly what she wants.

There's a time and a place for everything. You're trying too hard with this alpha/beta thing.

Vampiresquidina · 2015-11-29T05:15:45+00:00

wondering how to maintain long term relationship and engage in fetish from time to time.

I think your best bet might be a switch arrangement where you're the dom most of the time, and then occasionally you "allow" her to be on top. I agree with u/Sepean that the BDSM community could give you some ideas on how to pull it off.

ex_addict_bro · 2015-11-26T22:00:19+00:00

/u/whinemoreplease is pretty dom, he'll help you if he comes by

BluepillProfessor · 2015-11-27T03:18:24+00:00

I have something of an edging fetish which I suppose is close to having a submissive fetish. Nothing wrong with trading places and letting her tie you up so long as it gets you both off AND so long as it does not bleed into nonsexual areas.

Now pegging is a bit far and I don't know how you can be "Alpha" and bend over to take it like Caitlyn Jenner......

UEMcGill · 2015-11-30T00:38:58+00:00

Google "topping from the bottom".

i_pegg_myself · 2015-11-28T13:54:08+00:00

I'm kinda with you. What I do is play it out on my own. My wife would probably throw up if she knew...

But, from time to time, when I'm alone, I buy a dildo and fuck the hell out of it. It feels good man. Last time I used one of those with, err, the vacuum thingy so you can mount it somewhere. I fucked it and moaned like a girl.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2015-11-29T01:41:39+00:00

no woman will EVER respect you ever again once you've been submissive to her. do not fool yourself or believe she can compartmentalize like you can

Title	Alpha dealing with submissive fetish
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Date	November 26, 2015 6:38 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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