Am I doing this dread thing right?

ParadoxThatDrivesUs · 2016-03-14T02:23:15+00:00

So you don't lift at all? You need to show leadership by example.

"But I don't need to lose weight," you say.

I don't have to stay late at work when an emergency comes up that my underlings should handle. But I do anyway, because I'm the boss and I set the example.

cj_aubrey · 2016-03-14T04:18:45+00:00

So it sounds like your wife is attracted to you: she gives you plenty of sex and there is no respect problem. She just sucks in bed and and is obese, which I think are two separate problems with a similar, leadership-based solution. If she is compliant in bed, read Sex God Method and start leading her to great sex. If she follows you outside of the bedroom, work on leading her to healthier living, but I feel like this is more tenuous. Our way is to lead, not to control and there may be limits on how much you can lead her regarding diet.

Sepean · 2016-03-14T10:25:47+00:00

I'd bet money your SMV is lower than you think and mostly related to lack of frame, not passing shit tests properly, and lack of game.

I recently flat told her that I NEED her to lose weight

Ooh, with capital letters! How many times have you talked about this without doing shit to enforce your boundaries afterwards?

Increase your SMV, and once that is good withdraw affection and dread hard when she isn't losing weight.

Scurvemuch · 2016-03-14T13:19:51+00:00

that SMV test is some retarded autistic Bullshit.

the only SMV that has any effect on you is the SMV as perceived by the person you want sex from. In this case, I assume you want to fuck your wife.

So from a THEORY standpoint, you don't have the basic concepts yet.

In practice, it sounds like you have a scared wife and are using that as a threat.

What have you done to LEAD her to loose weight? ( not fucking tell her, lead her)

what specific measures have you taken recently to make her believe she should fucking listen to your words? Have you done anything that a good leader would do to get his first officer to make lasting changes?

BluepillProfessor · 2016-03-14T14:27:51+00:00

Dread is a technique for wetting down a dried up pussy.

I don't think that is what you are dealing with and you already have passive dread. Some endorsed guys disagree with me and have had success, but I don't think dread is useful for getting a woman to lose weight. I think Dread is useful for sparking the tingles, and that is it.

No doubt a LOT of problems go away when you have the tingles but I don't see the use of Dread when you already have the tingles if the goal is something else.

Just IMHO.

To get her to lose weight, show by example, lead, get her in to an exercise class, take control of the family food intake and purchases etc.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-03-14T14:37:02+00:00

She has little prospect of finding a better provider at this point.

So you are using "Beta Dread" and thinking that sexual arousal is about provisioning? Sure, getting SEX is all about provisioning ability, but genuine sexual arousal is something else entirely and that is what you want.

Like I say (torturing and improving P.J. O'rourke): Everything is about power, except sex. Sex is about money.

Title	Am I doing this dread thing right?
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Date	March 14, 2016 1:15 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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