TLTR: Most likely you are with someone who isn't right for you. So go find advice on how to find someone you are compatible with. Don't try and change yourself or your partner. This is just a really horrible, toxic and unfair thing to do. Life is too short.

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I need to give a psa. I accidentally stumbled upon this sub a while ago and recently came across it again. I was just going to ignore it, but I guess I will say something now.

Sorry, I don't mean to "hate" as so many of you call it, but this whole group mentality you all seem to have is complete bullshit and you are all just mindless slaves if you actually believe that any of this is important.

Listen, some people aren't meant to be together and most likely you shouldn't have married or gotten together with your spouse. Just plain and simple, it's not meant to be.

There is no amount of communication, weight lifting, body building, adjustments in sex habits, or anything else that is going to save your relationship.

To think that you need to come to a sub and hear a bunch of people with dysfunctional relationships try and coach you on your dysfunctional relationship is completely absurd.

You may call this sub a "support group", but really it's an enabling group, which enables others to continue their toxic and dysfunctional relationships. Same as drug addicts who hang around enablers who support their addiction.

I understand that some of you might have children and leaving the relationship might be emotionally scaring for them. If that is the case, then perhaps you might be an exception. But if this is the case, please go and see a qualified therapist and stop listening to these meat heads go on about trivial unimportant matters that will just worsen the situation.

Body building isn't going to change your relationship, weightlifting isn't going to change your relationship. Your wardrobe isn't going to change your relationship, your style isn't going to change your relationship, your hygiene isn't going to change your relationship, becoming an Alpha or a Beta or a Charlie or a Delta isn't going to change your relationship, learning new "principals" isn't going to change your relationship.

Look. I'll make it really simple. If you are coming to this sub for advice, please do yourself a favor and breakup and/or divorce your partner. Life is too short and you shouldn't be with someone that isn't right for you.

Most likely you are with someone who isn't right for you. So go find advice on how to find someone you are compatible with. Don't try and change yourself or your partner. This is just a really horrible, toxic and unfair thing to do. Life is too short.