• I have a GF.

  • She was becoming more dominant (I assume because she lost faith in my leadership)

    • For ex 1. there are times where I’m a hypocrite.
      • ex 1.1. I scold her for being late to our dates when I am late sometimes as well
    • ex 2. a “sadboy” because, very rarely, I tend to guilttrip if I feel like I’m losing her affection.
    • ex 3. she thinks I can be immature because sometimes I have this retarded thing where I play mindgames.
      • ex 3.1. she noticed that I say goodnight very early (7 pm) in a passive-aggressive way when she falls out my favor.

  • Right now we aren’t fighting—we just resolved a fight (comfort test)!last night because I started focusing on my purpose more than her.

    • To the point where I don’t message her for the whole day. (Im a hypocrite in this because I told her that I wouldn’t be so distant and that communication is key).

  • I know we should not DEER, but in the comfort test last night she started misunderstanding some of my actions.

    • She thought that I liked my friends’ company more than her’s because she thought I left her stage performance (shes a dancer) to go hang out with my friends (i did not).
      • When in reality I did not go to my friends, I just went home and slept.

  • So in cases like these, do I clear up the misunderstanding? I know you should not DEER or explain/ use excuses but if I don’t explain my side and STFU she will be hurt and lose trust in me.

  • On the other hand, if I explain myself I might just end up drying her pussy up.