Help with response to attention withdrawal

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-09-21T17:07:46+00:00

Consider for a moment that she's completely oblivious to how you want her to respond when you snuggle up with her ...due to your lack of captaining for the years (?) previous. So she just lays there instead. How have you lead her to responding to you? How have you encouraged that response? How have you told her when you're fucking what to do so she isn't starfishing?

Keep working on you. It's still all your fault.

bogeyd6 · 2017-09-21T15:50:37+00:00

Why are you being so different? You should ask yourself that question first. The go to response is to generally A&A it with escalation but you have kind of jumped the gun on the whole thing. You didn't really make some solid improvements in your life and your unattractiveness may be physical and mental to her.

Downhere_Seeds · 2017-09-21T21:54:20+00:00

You tried to have sex, she said no, you moved on, you are doing it right. STFU is right, let her hamster spin, anything you say may result in an argument or her hurt feelings. This process takes time, sometimes weeks, she'll figure it out, be patient and stay the course.

470_2_700_nm · 2017-09-21T16:36:41+00:00

Being OI and definitely wanting her to be enthused and willing are mutually exclusive states of mind. Think about that.

A "fee" months is not long enough. You are still a pussy.

Go.

Bencousinwater · 2017-09-21T19:56:52+00:00

This is a covert contract. You cuddle up to her expecting her to what...nestle into your semi? She's tired dude - you know she is. Why not just cuddle up because YOU want to, not because you want/expect her to do something in return.

Could cuddling up not be kino?

wn36 · 2017-09-22T14:03:21+00:00

Unless she gives a hard no, keep pressing. Take what you want. They want to feel needed and they want to be taken advantage of. Press your hardon on her in the morning. She knows you want to fuck. Escalate her, flip her over and fuck her. Like others said, if she gives you a hard no, move on - without being butthurt.

I do this shit with my wife all of the time. I used to think her being non responsive was a no but it wasn't. She wanted me to TAKE her. Years of wasted time and butt hurt feelings on my part!

It's easy to do with my wife but hard for me to push through with new girls, so I get it. I'm currently working on this.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-09-22T15:46:03+00:00

If you are really not buthurt, simply take your woman in your arms and reassure her. Perhaps tell her at some point that you are not into forcing a woman to have sex who is not into it, or something. Just the facts, no arguing?

However, she knows EXACTLY why you grow "cold." This is just typical refusing to accept responsibility, denial, and deflection.

ooj567 · 2017-10-03T19:13:25+00:00

You tell her what you are reading and what you want from her. Have an open conversation. Don't let situation escalate to divorce. An alpha thrive for ltr, not divorce.

Title	Help with response to attention withdrawal
Author	AlphadustBeta
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	September 21, 2017 3:43 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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