Maybe the end — unsure how to proceed after massive derailment

johneyapocalypse · 2020-10-31T04:28:28+00:00

what you perceive as the end is simply a new and better beginning

any woman's psycho-bullshit mental breakdown/breakthrough does not change that

JameisBong · 2020-10-31T04:51:20+00:00

Congratulations, looks like a problem that solved itself. I don't know what happened, but avoid taking on other people's problems matter how well intentioned.

redarcher99 · 2020-10-31T05:02:49+00:00

Sounds like you led her into things that hurt her and she feels ashamed of. You mightn’t have had a problem with it but she obviously did. She now associates those negative feelings and thoughts with you and doesn’t trust your intimacy.

What were you looking for from sex, drugs and alcohol? Where do these things fit in your mission? Are you addicted to high risk behaviour rather than being in control?

Many here will probably tell you to just next her but honestly wouldn’t you feel guilty and some responsibility for what happened and how you led? What’s to stop you doing the same thing again?

Why not try taking some responsibility for her and what you’ve done and see what happens? Show that you are worthy of her trust and not shallow.

BobbyPeru · 2020-10-31T05:20:35+00:00

There’s a whole lot of “we,”our,” and “she” in this post

What about YOU?.

Sidebar? Lifts?

MRP fixes The man, not the relationship (we/our/she)

Fix yourself and everything else falls into place, with or without her. It sounds like she’s having some major issues and also like she lost respect for you- I suspect the 2 are related.

This post tells us very little about you except you ‘were always alpha’ like almost every other guy posting in here.

AbeWasHereAgain · 2020-10-31T06:00:44+00:00

Dude, you’re in your 20’s, chill out.

Sepean · 2020-10-31T06:10:12+00:00

So if she didn’t have regrets, your plan was to start a family with her, and when people found her video and shared them in your social circle, you’d do what? Find her a new job? Just tell your kids to suck up the bullying, forget their friends and live as pariahs? Move town?

Maybe her videos aren’t available online, but if they are, she’s long term fucked, damaged goods.

If they aren’t, fix the issue. You want to be treated a certain way, be treated a certain way. Don’t enable her to stay hateful by allowing it. If she has an issue she wants to process with you or an her own, that’s fine in my book, support her in that. But if she thinks she has a right to shit on you and be a bad partner as part of that, enforce your boundaries. Like a shit test, be light and cocky about it, if that doesn’t work after a few times withdraw affection, if still no progress then up the dread.

Title	Maybe the end — unsure how to proceed after massive derailment
Author	breakupstrategy
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	October 31, 2020 4:00 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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