7 years behind everyone else - Advice

30fretibanezguy · 2016-11-30T00:34:49+00:00

60 year old version of you would much rather look back on his life as a graduate who worked to do what he really wanted than just someone who shrugged it off because he thought it was too late 30 years ago.

Refigerator1043 · 2016-11-30T05:08:03+00:00

I would just be very careful to study something that's actually marketable. It would be a real shame to waste years in college and end up with a worthless degree.

mrpCamper · 2016-11-30T00:34:29+00:00

I know many people who did 6 years of military service then went to college. They are doing fine and in their 40s there is no discernible difference between them and others who went straight to college. The factory experience is experience and will give you a small leg up upon graduation. Especially should help with getting internships which are the key to catapulting your success upon graduation.

ronsoness · 2016-11-30T07:39:55+00:00

I feel the same. Except I'm a lot older. early 30s . I would say that regret and thinking about "what if" is a real powerful human feeling, but it is a counter-productive feeling. You need to ignore it and focus on your future and what steps it would take to get there. You say it's "old", but that is relative to maybe some of your peers or these reference groups of people. Don't do that. It's a sure path to misery, insecurity, and low self esteem. Instead, focus on your own unique path in life. Think of where you were yesterday and where you want to be tomorrow. Trust me on this. I grew up poor as shit with holes in my shirts and 2 pants when I was a kid. Yet I went to a nice private high school and ended up spending a lot of time feeling like shit over comparing myself to my peers who have not understood struggle and have been given jobs, cars, homes, etc. In my first couple years of college, I rode a bicycle and a moped while some of my friends had luxury vehicles or sports cars. It's masochistic for me to be comparing myself with them. You also need good friend(s) like I do that are intelligent and help you keep perspective. You've got the goals, now you just need the right mindset. Also, be sure to choose a good major that suits you and go to networking events to help you secure a job out of school. That was a mistake I made and learned from since.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-12-02T02:06:41+00:00

I can relate. I finished a lower college education when I was 21. Never learned a thing there, breezed through it. Will never do anything related to that educated. I hated it, I basically picked it because in our country the government forces 16 year olds to pick a college course within one month. I had no idea what I wanted. I had only just entered puberty, fucking hell lol.

I decided I had to do another study if I wanted any chance of a decent job I liked. And not some gay ass computer shit my dad made me pick when I was barely growing hair on my body. I went through two colleges. My first choice turned out to not be to my liking. The second choice was but I realized I was horribly behind. I would be 28 years old when I finished this lengthy study.

My life would basically be on hold until then and this wasn't beneficiary if I wanted to progress. I realized that it would do more damage than good. Even if I completed the education I would not be guaranteed a job but would have a bigger loan.

I analyzed my skills and realized the army was perfect for me. They were willing to put you to work within half a year of 'education'. Just to clarify, my past was set up to enter the army. It used to be my goal and remained a back up plan. I'm also genetically gifted in certain areas that make me a great operator.

Anyway, I picked the army because it would put me to work right away and fit my skills. You should to, find something that's compatible to who you are and what you can do. And make sure that this thing takes off the ground rather quickly.

Sacrifices and risks are part of the game. You have to take them either way. I hope you find your way.

redolas · 2016-11-30T03:52:33+00:00

Forget university right now. It's overrated expensive, useless and a massive waste of time. Find an apprentice job in an area that pays well. Go work on an oil rig. Be an electrician, a plumber, a bartender. It all depends on what you're attracted to, but don't be a bum for 4-5 years, it's not worth it.

Read (or listen) to Mastery by Robert Greene.

awayofthought · 2016-11-30T02:19:26+00:00

What the fuck have you been doing these past 7 years?

Title	7 years behind everyone else - Advice
Author	EvIA2T
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Date	November 29, 2016 11:52 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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