AA hardcase

vandaalen · 2015-03-16T22:27:37+00:00

Do baby-steps.

Firstly start to learn to withstand looking people in their eyes without feeling uncomfortable. From now on you try to make eye-contact with everybody you meet anywhere and hold that eye-contact until the other person looks away. Don't try to stare them down, but try to come off as somebody who's open. Smile at them.

Meanwhile start setting yourself goals. Start low like "This week I am going to ask five persons a day that I have eye-contact with for the time."

Gradually set yourself higher goals, like "I am going to ask five girls I percieve as a HB7 or above for the time.", "I am going to try act flirty with five strange women, no matter how old they are or if I find them sexy." and so on.

Try to become flirty overall. I even flirt with the 62-year-old lady at the counter of my local bakery. I sometimes even get flirty in a friendly way with the gay guy in his mid-fifties, who's working at the kiosk where I get my coffee in the morning. Why? Because I can.

You'll get more and more comfortable in dealing with other people and ultimately also with women you'd really like to fuck and give less shits. Give yourself some time.

There is something like an "instruction" to this, where your goals are set for you, but I don't remember where. Maybe somebody else, who's more into PUA and game can provide a link.

pillaway · 2015-03-16T21:58:02+00:00

There's no secret to overcoming approach anxiety besides approaching. The more you move the easier it is to stay in motion.

Approach anxiety comes from fear of rejection, which comes from the lack of abundance mentality.

Continue to increase your confidence through working out and improving yourself, and continue to approach. It will get easier.

penguin_says_slide · 2015-03-16T23:17:10+00:00

I was like you. I'd read all the theory, I'd try and rationalize that approaching was OKAY and still my stupid brain would not yield. So I decided to fucking force it!

7 PM : Out of the house, head to the city square. It's fucking freezing.

Okay brain, now you and me are NOT going to GO BACK home, unless we approach ONE SET!

So either you get your act together and approach, or we're going to freeze here together and spend the night in a fucking park bench.

Result : I spent 4 hours, walking around the city square like a fucking psycho, looking at all the girls and too afraid to approach. Could barely feel my hands(no gloves). Finally when the cold/boredom/realization that I'd sleep on a park bench became stronger than my fear of approach, I just didn't give a fuck and approached.

Yay! Back to a warm bed!

Not done yet. We're doing it again tomorrow, but with 2 SETS.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-03-16T23:55:36+00:00

Kamikaze night.

Be Opposite George. Go up to girls and be brash, TRY to cross that line and get rejected. If a bitch is into you, CROSS THAT LINE. You might astonish yourself.

Worst case scenario, you'll build a sense of outcome independence.

https://youtu.be/u3k7lykTWTk

Title	AA hardcase
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Date	March 16, 2015 9:53 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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Yay! Back to a warm bed!