abundance mentality

Rkingpin · 2020-02-21T08:50:55+00:00

It only stings because she is the one who did the cutting off. This makes you subconsciously put her on a pedestal.

If you truly believe you are a prize, and know you aren't showing beta traits, you will understand that any girl retarded enough to cut you off was never worth it.

Stop looking for her in other women and move on, the wall is undefeated for women anyway.

YungRichKid · 2020-02-21T08:51:04+00:00

If you’re serious about taking on trp then you have to realize that the whole point is to never have to go through what you did again, and also getting a lot of new girls. Stop looking for another relationship because a successful one won’t happen until you get yourself straight both physically and mentally.

frognads · 2020-02-21T08:51:56+00:00

Stop looking for 'another one' and start looking for experience. And read the sidebar again.

Rememberthecodex · 2020-02-21T12:52:06+00:00

You don't need to find another one like her. Because you will be in the same situation you are now. Women are not that important, the rest is. You have to abandon this idea of the special girl that make you happy. You make your life happy. Usually women don't make your life better and surely not in the long run. You need women for sex and kids, you can find the rest elsewhere. Read the sidebar on the main sub and internalize the concepts. Good luck

RuthlessAndMotivated · 2020-02-21T14:19:40+00:00

I'm gonna be real with you man. People are gonna tell you all kinds of things about your frame, putting your ex on a pedestal and you just being a lil beetch. I feel like its all very robotic and systematic when people give answers on here.

You obviously had very strong feelings for her, it affected you.

The thing is when a person enters our lives like that it does change us, it has an impact and we become different people, the experience shapes us. You can't forget something like that, it'll hurt for another year or two or at least until you find someone you feel the same way about, it will then eventually fade but the memories will always be there along with some feelings.

I was in a similar position, it's been over a year since it finished and I still dream about her occasionally, i still think back and which things were different, I still get a little bit sad about it. it doesn't matter what I do or who I do, the experience will always have an impact on my life and how I feel, I think theres something very natural about it. Only time will heal something like this.

In the meantime don't get too strung up on it, go and enjoy yourself, make plans with friends, travel, go to a festival just make new memories and experience new things.

The heartbreak has impacted you and will make you sad, now go and create some memories and put yourself in situations that will effect you but instead of making you sad, when you look back it'll make you happy.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-02-21T13:16:11+00:00

"There's this One Girl...."

Sidebar ===>

Sergelano · 2020-02-21T11:00:44+00:00

Bro girls come and go this is life man, just know millions of men are going through the same thing.

This is part of life and this is female nature. And trust me she is no unicorn. It's normal that you still feel emotions you dated the girl for 8 months.

But time heals everything men. It may take a month, a year or more but you will find another chick and completely forget about her. And the cycle will continue.

cruelpain · 2020-02-21T14:26:14+00:00

It's hard but oneitis will kill you man.

You need to hurry up and seek abundance mentality as soon as possible.

Fake it if you have to.

flirtnature · 2020-02-21T15:10:01+00:00

Simple answer - yes. It's not her. It's not how it is. It's you.

You're comparing two incomparable things. A relationship you invested in, "unconditional" exchanges of feelings vs casual sex. Of course, it doesn't compare. It's normal.

TRP is comprehensive long term strategy to truly understand women through experience. Do a cost-benefit analysis, and move ahead with the right strategy. The resources are all here.

1m2rad2b4got10 · 2020-02-21T15:23:40+00:00

You’re not going to find “another one” like her because she doesn’t exist. This is the exact scenario which brings dudes to TRP. The rock hardens a little more each day as you realize that it was all in your head.

Shit, I’ll still have random dreams about the first girl I slept with and I haven’t seen her in close to a decade.

420ski · 2020-02-21T22:31:57+00:00

You caught oneitis and you sound like a bitch. Stop crying, read the sidebar, and get on with life. The mods ought to ban you for this bitch post.

Title	abundance mentality
Author	cruelpain
Upvotes	13
Comments	22
Date	February 21, 2020 8:17 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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