Addicted to binge drinking

InformalCriticism · 2018-09-13T17:42:38+00:00

One distinction to make when you're faced with adversity of any kind is that motivation is not the same as determination.

If you're waiting to get motivated, or relying on motivation in order to achieve your goals, you will fail.

Determination to accomplish goals is disciplining yourself well enough to do what needs to be done despite your emotional state of mind.

If you are drinking alone, stop.

If you are going to parties, set an alarm for when to leave, and stick to it.

For some people abstaining from alcohol is impossible. Just cut it down to a functional level, and watch for the changes that occur. If the changes are not all positive, like you get depressed or start feeling bad, then you might be treating and undiagnosed mental/emotional issue.

If you can't do what you are telling yourself to do, then you need serious professional help. Like, in-patient commitment, and counseling.

If you can do a few simple things to benefit your overall health and well being, then you'll be fine on your own just keeping yourself accountable for your decisions and actions.

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-09-13T17:46:23+00:00

Be disciplined. Set yourself a number of drinks you're allowed and keep it there. For example, I'm allowed three drinks at a social night. You can space them out or drink them all at once but three is three.

If you can't do that, you need to consider that you might be an alcoholic. Binge drinkers fall under that category as well.

RedPillD · 2018-09-13T19:07:13+00:00

I'm an alcoholic as well. Same type as you.

I've found a few things to help manage in times that I'm not fully abstaining. Though I know I don't have all the answers.

You first have to start off the evening with mindset that getting buzzed is not the goal.

If I'm grabbing a beer with friends at a bar, I order something I truly enjoy the flavor of. I sip it slow. Appreciate the flavor. I focus on the conversation. A single beer will last a long time when your mind isn't focused on reaching the next one.

Never mix caffeine with alcohol. Your friends invite you for a night out and you want to go but you're feeling tired? Go out tired. The vibe of the night will perk you right up once you get there. And your body's exhaustion will end the night before you've gone too far.

Take lifting seriously. I get upset when I can't push my numbers up for this workout because I drank too much two nights ago. Sure I can BS my way through a workday at 40%, but the weights don't lie.

And the most obvious answer, stop drinking. I hate having the reputation as the wild one in my group. I hate it every time a friend brings up that one time that I... , because I don't remember it. I was blacked out. That doesn't sound like me at all. It wrenches at my gut to hear those stories. And they only happened because of my stupidity.

punchyson · 2018-09-14T03:22:37+00:00

Hi /u/Best_Chorizo

I too have a problem with drinking. I can resist it but once the barrier is broken, I'm gonna drink until the bar closes, the beer is gone, everyone else is passed out and nobody is sober enough to drive to get more etc.

At one point in my life, and I'm not at all proud of this, I could drink a 30 pack and not even feel drunk. I only started feeling like myself after a 12 pack. Trust me, it doesn't get better.

Your first step is to understand how deeply programmed you are to associate alcohol with having fun and being social. When you go completely sober, people will treat you like you are killing their party if you don't drink. Even if the last time you drank you kicked someone's ass and put a pinball machine through an expensive full length mirror. Believe that.

You are drinking for a reason beyond the drink of choice. First of all be brave and say no. Second learn to have fun sober. Third, reflect on what makes you feel like you need to be drunk before you can be the "real" you.

The best thing I ever did was learn to be "shitfaced" fun while completely stone cold sober. It was awkward, hard, challenging. I'm so glad I went through it though.

I recommend a book called "Alcohol lied to me". It didn't cure me instantly, but it sure helped.

zeekt12 · 2018-09-13T22:07:11+00:00

I got the same problem fam, dont party/drink often but when i do i go hard, and my red pill lense goes out the window.

Just got to pace ourselves better i guess :P

The__Tren__Train · 2018-09-13T17:53:24+00:00

Do you have any advice, have you ever managed to control your alcohol addiction ?

stop drinking.

what were you expecting anyone to say? stop removing agency from yourself and act like you have a pair.

Title	Addicted to binge drinking
Author	Best_Chorizo
Upvotes	7
Comments	15
Date	September 13, 2018 5:33 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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