Writing post for a friend. His situation:

28 year old male. Former addict and spent about 5 years in prison(heroin trafficking, kicking doors in, guns, etc). Has immense natural game, is heavy dark triad but has reformed the most destructive parts. He’s HEAVILY reformed and not on any of that destructive shit anymore. Girls loose it over him, has only heard about TRP through me. His girlfriend/”fiancé” is a literally a preacher’s girl. He turned her from a valedictorian over achiever to a heroin addict junkie. She waited for him for 5 years while he was in prison. Her entire identity is tied up with him. He has at least 3 plates in addition to her going on at any given time. He eventually told her and she refused to believe him. She even offered to let him see other people as long as he came home to her.

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She has a very high IQ. double majored in useless topics, and has a ridiculous pipe dream of becoming an actress (she’s 28, about a HB7, with no experience and won’t follow up on pursuing it). She’s become disturbingly and embarrassingly stupid and confused. Her sentences hardly make sense and struggles with everyday tasks. She makes ridiculously stupid mistakes on everyday things and has low key threatened to kill herself if my friend leaves her (she has slit her own throat in an argument once). She wants to go back to drugs often times and he wont allow it. To be fair my friend was abused as a child and is probably hard on her, but not abusive. My friend hates being around her and taking care of her. He would like to be with her if she got her shit together (my friend has gotten his shit together majorly, no longer on drugs, good career, taking care of his shit, etc), but doesn’t see that happening.

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He’s trying to find a way out where she doesn’t kill herself (he’s convinced she will do it, he is her everything, she has no identity without him – her n count is 3, been with him for 10 years if you count the prison time, never cheated). They hardly have sex anymore. She has moved to our home state (foreign to her) to live with my friend after he got out of prison. He’s not an “internet person” (feels like he “missed the boat” b/c of prison), and would never ask for help from a strangers. Let me know if you need any more information. Thanks in advance, just trying to help my friend out.

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Do you guys have any advice to either get her back on point or get out of the relationship without her killing herself?

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