Summary

  1. Went out with a girl once for a coffee date, just to test things out, it was a girl I had not met in a long time, so I tested it out to see if she was open to more than just friends. She let me escalate pretty freely, I had no resistance from her on the escalation, but I didn't go for the kiss.

  2. Set up a second meet up, this time the place was nicer (it was a bar with good lighting for even better escalation). Ended up making out with her several times and having a good time with her as we later danced. She did seem a little "not ready" to even escalate to the kiss.

  3. Called to set up a third meet up - she sounded down for it, but rambled about her busy schedule a little. Then when I asked her to go do an event on a particular day, she kind of rejected the idea. I didn't have a backup plan when she low key turned down the offer for the activity. Her reason for turning it down is legitimate. Told me to sleep on it and let her know so she can rearrange her schedule.

Questions

  1. I am out of ideas for a place to take her. Would another bar type place be a good idea? I know when it comes to dates, we should do what we think is cool and fun, the girls are just there to come along and keep us company.

  2. Do I soft next her, what would be the proper response here? I feel like soft nexting her might piss her off, but if I do I can then call her later in the week and set up a meet up for next week. Also with soft nexting her I would continue to keep it man to woman, where I decide when to call her not her. Overall thoughts on my thinking?

  3. Need advice on f-close. I live with relatives so bringing her home would be challenging unless I sneak her in, same goes for her so her place is even more challenging.