Hi r/asktrp,

I'm a 30 year old unplugged dude. I found TRP about 5 years ago after an ex cheated on me. I've read all of Rollo's stuff and mostly embrace the theories discussed on r/theredpill. I know this community does not really advocate for LTRs or marriage but despite all I have read I still do want the whole married-with-kids and a house thing. Of course I want to go about it in the most cautious and open-eyed way possible.

Anyway, I'll keep this as brief as possible. After I was cheated on 5 years ago, I found TRP and started practicing its doctrines with a lot of success. I spun plates for a while until I met my current GF. She's great in a lot of ways but has some major baggage. Her EX cheated on her with 5 different girls and she lost her father in her early 20s (I know, I know, you guys are probably screaming RUN!).

Anyway. For whatever reason, throughout the relationship, she has gradually become increasingly paranoid that I am cheating on her. I really haven't given her any solid reason to think this. I am very career focused right now (I work upwards of 80 hours a week) so I don't have time for women honestly. Occasionally girls will make fairly obvious attempts to get in my pants, but I have never entertained them. I never spend any 1-on-1 time with other girls and all my communications with women are work-related.

The other day, she calls me after work LIVID that I haven't talked to her at all in the last 24 hours. She goes as far to claim that the reason my EX (from 5 years ago) cheated on me because I wasn't giving her enough attention. Once she said that, I basically told her to go fuck herself and cut contact. (This isn't the first time this has happened).

The thing is, these irrational emotional outbursts on her part have been gradually increasing in frequency, and I am kind of curious about the psychology behind it. My best guess is that some part of myself has become more "beta" and that this slip in my behaviour is causing her become less attracted to me, hence the massive increase in shit tests and emotional outbursts.

My goal here isn't necessarily to save our relationship... I remain outcome independent and know I can get other women without too much difficulty. But I want to figure out what I am doing wrong and correct that behaviour so in the future this girl (or other girls) will act right and treat me with more respect.

If any one has any thoughts or questions, please comment. Thanks for reading.