I posted in askmrp, with no response, so I wanted to come here to ask as well.

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Hi All,

I've been following red pill for a bit, read and understood the concepts of red pill, etc. Going into my current relationship, I was a mix of red pill and blue pill without knowing it. When we first met, I was (still lifting heavy present day) into going to the gym, had a few hobbies (one being a volunteer firefighter which she was really into) ( I since moved and haven't joined the town I'm currently living in/Don't have time) that I was passionate about and my wife noticed my passion for these hobbies, which was why she was attracted to me. We've been married for almost 3 years now and things started to change a bit. I noticed that although we are having sex, it isn't as exciting as it was. She will still do kinky things here and there (different positions, butt stuff, etc), but it's not as frequent. She mostly enjoys missionary, which is cool with me because she's into getting choked and missionary is a perfect position for it. Usually during sex, she's submissive and let's me do the things I wanna do, but sometimes she says no, to everything.

BUT, she has put up a bit more last min resistance lately, doesn't seem as interested in it, gets kinda bitchy here and there about it and other dumb things. She just got home from work, sitting on her phone and I went over to her and started messing with her. Put my feet on her and stuff, overall just messing with her, trying to get some laughter out of her and she was so bitchy about my feet being on her. So I played it off and didn't care, got up and went into the kitchen to prepare my dinner ( she's not hungry tonight). Less responsive to kino. She still treats me great though, makes dinner (95% of the time and she enjoys cooking/making me food) (which is basically every night) every night, seems like she enjoys spending time with me overall.

That being said, I've began introducing more dread ( besides my gym routine, keeping up with friends, overall improving myself, etc). I joined a martial arts club and I try to get there as much as I can. Sometimes I'll go two times a day. I've been trying to create more distance between us, but I think she knows that I'm partly doing this to get away from her for a bit. I truly love Jiu Jitsu and I think I have a life long hobby now ( or for as long as my body can take it). I've also bettered myself by other means, such as: Focusing on a better work life and making more money, buying new clothes and I try to dress great like 80% of the time, normally hair cuts to look fresh, etc. Still hitting the gym and in fact, I've gotten pretty damn lean over the past 3 months, close to 12% body fat, 6 ft at 190 pounds.

I'm applying this dread, but she hasn't seemed to respond to it much. I know passive dread is a life long thing, but how long does it normally take to start to see a female respond to it? Obviously, I'm going to continue to dread her, but do I just continue doing the same thing? Do I escalate it even more? I'm pretty busy now that the only thing I have time for at night is to finish up any work I need to, eat dinner and get ready for bed for work the next day (This is after my gym session or jiu jitsu class(es).) One more note about my new martial arts passion, my wife doesn't really care about my passion for this hobby. She still mentions that she is happy she is with someone who takes health and fitness seriously, but she doesn't seem to care about my new hobby or find me more attractive now that I'm doing something new that I find exciting and fun. Also to mention, she is pretty serious about her health and fitness as well. She is a beautiful woman with a really nice curvy, thick figure.

Also, I still try to game her, flirt with her, make things light and fun. Like I said, we still have sex, but sometimes I think she does it to keep me happy. Sometimes she's super into it, sometimes not as much. I used to get jealous of things or situations, but since reading the red pill, I don't really give a shit about the things she does, unless it's something disrespectful. Honestly, I can only think of 1 occurrence where she disrespected me (before reading red pill) and I called her out immediately and laid the law down (If she allows someone to try to go beyond flirting with her, she needs to shut it down)(I honestly like watching some guys try to hit on her, I know at the end of the night, she is still my wife and going home with me). She knows that I won't get mad at her disrespect, I'll just be disappointed ( she's mentioned how awful she would feel if she disappointed me again) with her and depending on the situation, maybe escalate it to something more serious. Since that day (2+ years ago), she hasn't done anything similar to that situation.

Any input on how to proceed with dread or this situation would be appreciated!

Side question: Is there ever any benefit to denying sexual initiation from Wife? If I initiate 3 times, she will reject me twice (she's tired, not in the mood, being a cunt, mad about something from last week, etc, etc ,etc), But if she initiates (which happens maybe once or twice a month) I usually go with it and have sex with her. If I deny her advances here and there, does it benefit me at all? Will she question why I'm not wanting to have sex with her? Does that sort of thing get her hamster going at all?

Addition: I came home late last night from jiu jitsu and my wife seemed a bit more receptive to me. Normally she will sit on the other side of the bed to watch tv and play on her phone, but last night she initiated some kino and wanted to lay on my chest. This morning she was late for work and was a bit bitchy. I said bye to her, she let me know she was safely to work and I said, great have a good day. Haven't talked to her since. I don't plan on texting her at all for the rest of the day.