So more of an update on my dating life thus far. I asked recently about a girl that I hadn't gotten to come over after a 3rd date. I got a variety of opinions on the matter, so I figured I'd continue with my experience.

The good news: I've been going out with and talking to more than one person (for once in my life).

The bad news (maybe). So after going out with 3 or 4 people and going out on second dates, I seem to not really have an easy time of inviting them over to hang out.

I see a seemingly golden rule of three dates and done, but I'm consistently attracting pretty meek, mild, shy girls (some of the churchian variety). They seem game... but more reserved. I'm not buying them dinner or spending a ton of time (an hour, rarely more).

Am I not being aggressive enough with kino? I don't know. I'm a complete and total rookie, so I don't know what I'm missing that isn't leading to simple 1-3 date success. Trying not to waste too much time with people.

To close it off. I'm not doing "dinner dates", or paying for anything. I meet up. We drink. I leave. I set up a second date, get rebuffed on coming over, offer another hangout and drinks deal. Just wondering if I'm missing something.