Anyone else just feel frustrated?

AlfredApple · 2017-04-20T00:20:47+00:00

in the past month or so

Mate, it takes years to realign your life after taking the pill. Relax, keep learning and you'll figure it out.

covertpenguin3390 · 2017-04-20T00:54:22+00:00

The change from beta to Casanova doesn't happen overnight lol just like anything it takes a lot of hard work and experience. Just an example, I used tinder a few years ago for like two years and maybe came out with 4 mediocre dates the whole time with no sex. Now spool up to right now and this is my second week after re downloading it (was in an LTR until then) and I have 4 dates lined up for this week, which two I have already gone on. So what's the difference between 2014 penguin and 2017 penguin??? Three years of self progress, I now have one of the coolest jobs on the planet, in better shape, dress better, have internalized how to actually talk to women a bit after years of trial and mostly error. But even with that nice jump up I'm still not close to being pro, seeing as I haven't banged any of these girls yet. I was already mildly successful with women since high school so take that into consideration too. What I'm saying is, it takes time if you're not a natural. Get your ass in awesome shape, get good grades/focus on getting that career you want, build friendships with other males that are at your level or better. Those are things you should be able to handle. With women, just keep trying, and don't be a creep. You'll figure it out.

_the_shape_ · 2017-04-20T14:37:55+00:00

You actually pointed out your problem quite clearly toward the end of your post and even accidentally brushed up on the solution without realizing it. Let's run through the part of your comment that caught my eye:

It also feels like Ive been brainwashed to a point where I don't know how to just be who I want to be. Hypergamy has a firm hold on my behavior and it has me questioning everything I do.

You're bogged down in thought when you ought to be bogged down in ACTION. You're permitting your very own thoughts to quite literally weigh you down to the point of inaction. The show must go on, with or without you! Get out there and make something happen (i.e. be part of the show), or be cast aside and forced to watch from a dark corner, lonely, wishing, knowing that's not where you belong.

And we all know once you take the red pill there is no going back. I refuse to go back to thinking thats normal. I just want to "get it". What am I missing? I just want to live the life I've always wanted to live.

You can't go back to "normal" thinking not because that would be self-deception, but because you'd know it's self-deception and cowardice. You truly will "get it" once you start living it. Look at the last fragment of that part of your comment one more time:

I just want to live the life I've always wanted to live.

You just need to go out there and do it. That's it. More action, less theory. Get busy! Assign yourself one task after another - complete them - and move on to bigger and more challenging! Start with something like "today, I'm only going to say hi to 5 girls - that's it", tomorrow the same, maybe the day after 10, work up to longer and longer conversations etc. Focus only first on accomplishing the tasks. You do things. Not think things (not primarily at least), but do. Do likewise in other areas of your life (build up your body, build up your career, build any side projects/ side-hustles)

Be relentless in this fashion for a prolonged period of time (I'm going to suggest something like a year or two at least) and eventually you will absolutely "get it".

Toxik6 · 2017-04-20T01:48:35+00:00

Any tips for just getting better talking to them in general? My job is to talk to strangers all night in bars so approaching is not hard for me. It's showing my interest along with shit tests I'm very weak at. Thank for the reply

Title	Anyone else just feel frustrated?
Author	Toxik6
Upvotes	11
Comments	8
Date	April 20, 2017 12:10 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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