I find myself wanting to message a HB9 throughout the day but I’m aware of my old orbiter habits and how it has ruined my potential with past plates. After reading No More Mr. Nice Guy, I realized that some of my habits and mindset that drove me into this behavior of being an orbiter were that I’m worried she’ll lose interest in me if I’m not trying to give her attention. Adopting the opposite of that mindset is hard. But I find myself realizing when I don’t talk to this plate for a few days she’ll message me first and I try to keep it that way, messaging throughout the day to a minimum and the occasional flirty short convo. Anyone else find themselves struggling with these internal issues? Yeah I know oneitis, sniper mentality, I’m specifically trying to avoid that with this plate and other plates as I’ve come to realize my past behaviors, but is it ok to like one of your plates a lot?

TLDR: anyone else find themselves being worried that a plate will lose interest in you and as a result find themselves being eager to give them your attention through messaging, etc. in hopes of keeping her interest?