hello,

I live in the city (Not USA), which isn't as open and greeting as for example Europe is, or USA. Society is pretty snobbish, very small % of people want to make new friends via some activities. They prefer to be locked in their egg shell with the people they know, or get a new friend through their mutual friends.

For example, recently one of the girls i know, told me how someone approached her on the street and it was "pretty weird". When i asked, how is she going to meet her soulmate, she said definitely not being approached on the street. So, this is a little bit about the city i live in.

This is not a type of city where people just say hi on the street or smile when make an eye contact. This is not a single example. During an accidental eye contact, people usually look away. And if you smile, they creep out and look away.e.

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There are this festivals and art spaces, where i usually go to hang out with my friends - where everybody comes with a friend and gets locked in in their friend-comfort-zone. Approaching a girl that is with her friend, mostly will make her look at you like a weirdo/creep, involve in the conversation, but give you short answers, due to not feeling comfortable. They have a feeling of guilt.

The reason for this is its VERY important for people here - what will people think about them?

It even reminds me a moment from Horace and Pete TV show by Louis CK. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixw0wWLx8W8

Where the woman is being rude and bitchy to a guy, who just was trying to initiate the conversation.

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What would be your suggestions on approaching and opening, in this type of environment? I'd appreciate hearing your ways of dealing with it.