I find myself in conflict when I'm with a plate for an extended time or an open Long Term partner. Obviously initially you can turn on all alpha, all the time mode and they love it but at some point they require some amount of comfort if you intend to keep them around. My question is what do you find is the proper balance once you're already with a woman and having sex and she starts coming to you with comfort test such as coming to you for problems she's having in her life or looking to you for advice. I'm trying not to overthink it but I know the situation stands both from reading on here and from personal experience that if you go too deep into comfort zone then you get placed in the beta pile and sex drives up but I also realize some of it is required. How do you usually go about giving them those subtle amounts of comfort, reassuring them and quieting the hamster while still maintaining a mostly sexual and alpha frame and not going into beta mode.

Just for context of where I'm coming from even though I mean just in general advice, 2 of my current plates are both in university. They are in exams period currently and both have been in full on stress mode and constantly coming to me for reassurance. I've tried my best to reassure them here and there without going into beta bucks but I absolutely feel like I've been over doing it and I even feel like it's been effecting how they act towards me and see me even this quickly so I see that I need some strong direction in this area. Thanks gents, go forth and conquer.