Hey I don't know if anyone here's ever had this problem after they started down the red pill path, but I hope someone can give me some guidance here.

First, I know how to be a dominating, arrogant/confident, commander of my life. And I know how to be aloof, funny, well composed and in control of myself. The problem is when I behave one way, I can't seem to behave in the other. I need both, because when I'm dominating and aggressive I'm also angry which isn't great, but when I'm aloof/fun I'm also passive and not in charge of anything and that's not great either.

Does anyone else ever have trouble letting go while still be able to be aggressive and in charge? Cuz I'm either too tense and angry, or too loose and passive. I can't seem to find a balanced frame.