Basic concept I know, but how do you feel about your plates openly admitting to seeing other men?

FereallyRed · 2019-03-13T18:53:01+00:00

Validation seeking and testing.

Tell her you're fucking other guys too, and you should probably compare notes to make sure you don't end up Eskimo brothers.

It's just bullshit.

DadOnDabs · 2019-03-13T19:03:57+00:00

Depends on context. I let them know right away I see other people and they are free to do the same. I won't talk about who I see and they shouldn't talk about who they see.

If they do break that rule I shut it down calmly, "I don't want to hear about other people you fuck. Keep it to yourself, as will I."

If it gets repetitive then I just ghost her. That shit is so unattractive.

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-03-13T19:28:16+00:00

She's probing you, a shit test, trying to get a reaction out of you.

IMO, "plates" are an agreement between two adults to have sex for fun, with no strings attached. "Exclusivity" is not part of the definition. It's up to you to decide how you want to feel about her seeing other men, and her telling you about it. Set you guidelines with her. If she doesn't comply, drop her.

GGrub8 · 2019-03-13T19:44:07+00:00

I just reply with "Well it's not like you're my girlfriend".

Rest assured that if she's interested in the prospect of a LTR she'll think twice before saying that next time.

Either way something like that pretty much kills any chance of a LTR.

ProFriendZoner · 2019-03-13T22:04:35+00:00

No ring on the finger, no big deal to me. Not that they'll ever get a ring from me, but still.

Glowv2 · 2019-03-13T21:27:39+00:00

''Good to hear you're practicing''

studioorsingleroom · 2019-03-13T23:18:16+00:00

You gave your own answer. If you think it is disrespectful, you are free to voice your thoughts, or just ignore it.

MisterMarbles1988 · 2019-03-14T00:32:01+00:00

Never had plates admit this openly but one of them would text dudes when she'd be at my house kicking it. Annoyed me a little but not nearly enough to say something about it. She found condom wrappers in my room once and was upset, crying about it (what sense does this make if she is dating other guys? beats me).

From my POV OP's plate is just saying this because she isn't satisfied with her own status as his plate, and wants to ho him down to her level.

boy_named_su · 2019-03-13T18:47:39+00:00

I don't know if it's disrespectful but I am not a fan. It's super unclassy. Makes an LTR with them almost zero possibility.

I don't mention other girls I'm fucking. There's zero need for them to mention other guys.

Title	Basic concept I know, but how do you feel about your plates openly admitting to seeing other men?
Author	Thisismybot8
Upvotes	2
Comments	29
Date	March 13, 2019 6:43 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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