Being a rebound

majorketone · 2020-01-09T21:17:54+00:00

Probably, but I don't really know or care. You're still young, you'll learn the ropes as you continue to internalize TRP and spin more plates. I was there too, I caught oneitis bad for the girl that took my virginity before TRP. Now, I have plates and if I fuck a girl she's welcome to come back for more or not, it doesn't really matter because I have other irons in the fire. Some girls that dropped off might have used me for a rebound, but I used them for sex and kept emotional and time investment to a minimum so it doesn't really bother me.

The trick is to do just that, keep your emotional investment and investment of time to a minimum until she's earned it. I wouldn't consider a girl for LTR promotion until months of spinning her as a plate. If you do this, you won't catch unnecessary feels or know/care about being a rebound.

BrandanTech · 2020-01-09T22:43:52+00:00

Why she is sleeping with you should be none of your business. As long as she is having a good time with you and enjoying herself, you’re okay.

If she’s getting off and you’re getting off, who the fuck cares.

Domebeers · 2020-01-09T23:57:16+00:00

are you the next guy fucking her after her ex? That's generally a sign

[deleted] · 2020-01-10T10:20:45+00:00

You ask for signs. I'd say bitching about him and using you as emotional tampon is one of them. If she's into you, you'll only hear about him in a superficial way. A lot of people say 'but she says she hates him' as proof that she actually hates him.

No. You're looking for indifference. You're looking for 'yeah I went there with ex' said with indifference as opposed to 'he's such a bastard!!' when you're lying in bed with her.

If the latter happens, you really should politely make your excuses and exit stage left.

Warren_Bateman · 2020-01-10T15:43:10+00:00

I was a rebound to a girl recently coming off from a 5 year LTR (they were engaged toward the end). Anytime you’re seeing a girl coming off an LTR, you are the rebound.That being said, if you don’t get overly invested, the only real danger is she’ll be a delicate plate.

Girls coming off LTRs have preset notions of comfort/shit test levels, so expect a higher degree of comfort while at the same time push boundaries harder - they’re more difficult to plate because they’re farther removed from what it means to be single. They’re also more inclined to give you the same affection/attention as in an LTR which can be intoxicating.

If your curious how mine went: I was arrogant and thought I had internalized TRP, stopped reading/improving myself, got over-invested, and things subsequently turned to shit. YMMV

Title	Being a rebound
Author	polarizingpotato
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	January 9, 2020 9:02 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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