Being an asexual

frequentlywrong · 2015-01-17T21:59:48+00:00

Have you ever told a doctor that you have no sexual desire? If you have unnaturally low testosterone this brings with it many other medical issues.

id05245 · 2015-01-17T21:16:30+00:00

Work on improving yourself. Better yourself. Try new things. Since you think trying to find someone with monogamous desires is a waste of time then don't do that. Put yourself in situations that will lead to your own improvement. Networking, making friends with people that can help you toward your goals is extremely useful. Go with that. Learn things that bring you toward your goals and better yourself, work towards a career and building the kind of lifestyle you want to live. Indulge in your pursuits-- the things you'd want to be doing without a partner any way. Find a way to make money preferably doing something you enjoy and then save as much money as you can. It might take you a while to figure out what you want and during that you making and saving money makes having that thing that you eventually want a lot easier .

SoundsLegitButWrong · 2015-01-17T22:52:43+00:00

I mean this seems really difficulty. I have known of women who werent too into sex and just wanted a guy to be with them and provide support. Hell plenty of marriages turn into almost sexless things, but at the end of the day women want sex.

However, it seems odd you dont desire sex. Are you on medication?

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2015-01-18T04:48:20+00:00

Talk to a doctor and get your hormone levels tested.

One possibility is a small benign tumor in your pituitary gland that produces the hormone Prolactin, a.k.a. Prolactinoma. In men, typical symptoms of this are erectile dysfunction and loss of sex drive.

machimus · 2015-01-18T08:19:11+00:00

Sex for most people is a basic human need. It is also an important way that people communicate and bond. If you are indeed truly asexual, your choices are to fix that or to find a similar partner out there somewhere.

Fix it: There are many therapies for asexuality including (but not limited to) testosterone supplements and psychotherapy (if the condition is psychological). Talk to a doctor if you're interested in something like this.
Find someone like you: I know for a fact I've seen self-diagnosed asexual girls on dating sites like OkCupid. Around here, r/asexuality might be a good place to start talking to people about how they deal with meeting others.

It's totally up to you in the end, but many RP concepts like self improvement will help you regardless.

QuidulusBroQuo · 2015-01-18T04:35:34+00:00

Are you on antidepressants? Or do you feel depressed at all? Low libido is a symptom of both of these. The fact that you want to have children especially if they are your own, not adopted, implies that you are not asexual but rather have a different problem.

krazykoo · 2015-01-19T07:14:25+00:00

A lot of the time asexual nature can be temporary under life's current circumstances. I know several people who have identified as asexual in the past or present (and even questioned myself at one point), but it usually flips depending on where the individual is in life.

As others have mentioned, you can get your hormone levels checked, but this can also come out normal and you still feel the need to align as asexual. I would recommend sitting down and reviewing where you are currently, what types of sexual desires you do have, when, and how you have viewed this in the past. Truly reflecting to understand your own nature, desires, and tendencies will help to provide clarify to get past this. Are you a virgin? If you have had sex, did you enjoy it?

Lastly, also review your surroundings---are you in a position that if you wanted to have sex you can? Sometimes environment, if you're still living at home, health, appearance, or other factors can lead one to believe they don't have prime opportunity and thus align that they do not need such as basic need. Remember, Sex is one of the 5 primary needs on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, so it's worth reflecting to figure this out. TRP is about focusing on self-actualization in the end, so it's important to fill out the bottom of the pyramid so you can get there.

Hope this helps!

Title	Being an asexual
Author	HumanishDevil
Upvotes	0
Comments	8
Date	January 17, 2015 8:52 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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